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While I am fighting for Dear life

DoingBetter
DoingBetter

As I fight for the lives of our children .. he is on Facebook posting pics letting the world know he's single! It's actually amusing to me. Without going into details I've been fighting so hard for our children it's been a year and 8 months getting attacked left and right lord knows the pain I've been thru. But I walk in humility only closing my door at night when I get home on my knees praying for god to turn our lives around. He says he cares but he does not I wanna be cordial I stay in my peace but honestly this type of stuff pisses me off. I wanna completely cut him off I wanna move get away from everything that reminds me of him but I have to wait on gods time. I also don't want to keep my children away there not old enough to make their own choices. Why did I have to have children who I love so much with someone who's level of care is none.

Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
Hugs my friend. Your journal is an echo of my first one. I went through the same thing. Except it was his family that was the cause. It was his lies too. I learned early that I was going to be everything for my kids. He was never there for them or me. Start building up your own credit score, get a credit card under your name and tell him you want to be taken off all credit cards that are joint. Then find a therapist and a financial advisor. You really need those two. You do not have to tell him anything. Stay strong and safe.
Aronia
Aronia
You will get through this. Once you have your own space, life will fall into place..
it is a very difficult time. God knows, I ve been there.
The good news is - life goes on. Keep making a plan for the future.
You are obviously way more mature than your ex. The children will choose whoever is able to provide them with a stress free, safe place. You be that person, because it is an investment in your peace when they get older.
My kids are 17 and 21, and they are doing just fine because they always knew I am their rock.
Wishing you strength and serenity
urbangardener
urbangardener
Sometimes God answers in ways we aren't asking for. When we ask God to heal and change other people, sometimes what God does is heal and change ourselves. Maybe consider asking God for wisdom, courage, and strength instead of turning your life around. Because this opens up the channel in our minds and souls instead of begging God for the change we think we should have. Maybe God sees our lives differently. I found that if I could look at the lessons I needed to learn through God's wisdom and courage and strength, I received much. Didn't make my life perfect or change my abuser but it did change me. I wish you well. Much of what you write is what I also thought. The reason we pick these bad partners is within ourselves to figure out. I have done the same, it isn't easy to aim for self awareness instead of blame of others. I still fall into blaming others and being bitter about how I was treated. But I am working on releasing the bitter because it isn't serving me well. I want emotional freedom from the bitter. Hugs to you.
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