Healthy Relationships Support Group
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I know I'm not ready to date right now, this instant, but what do I do when I am? I know that I can attract the kind of women that I want to attract but I have gone so long without any good coming out of my life that when I see the potential for something just grand, I cling on to it and I don't want to let go.
I've been through so much hell that the smallest positive thing puts me into a blissful state. I am so scared of being a clingy person who has many insecurities because of what I've been through. I would most likely repeat the mistakes that I have made in the past and scare her away.
This is my plan for my future.
When I get to that point with a girl that I am interested in,
I am not going to quit dating other women and just focus on her.
I'm going to take things slow and let her take the lead on where the relationship goes.
I will wait for her to say that she wants more, when that happens,
I will quit dating other women but will not express how much that I care for her.
I will let her choose what she wants out of our relationship.
I will just enjoy the present and the time that I spend with her.
If she tells me that she loves me, I won't tell her then.
I will wait another couple of weeks before I return that I love you.
I don't think every chic I date is going to meet my standards or I hers, but this is what I think caused me to fell in my past relationship. I am not a patient person and I think that's 1 of my biggest flaws.
I vow to enjoy the time I have with people in general in the present, without thinking about tomorrow. I think that alone will help prepare me for dating, not now, but when I am ready.
I've been through so much hell that the smallest positive thing puts me into a blissful state. I am so scared of being a clingy person who has many insecurities because of what I've been through. I would most likely repeat the mistakes that I have made in the past and scare her away.
This is my plan for my future.
When I get to that point with a girl that I am interested in,
I am not going to quit dating other women and just focus on her.
I'm going to take things slow and let her take the lead on where the relationship goes.
I will wait for her to say that she wants more, when that happens,
I will quit dating other women but will not express how much that I care for her.
I will let her choose what she wants out of our relationship.
I will just enjoy the present and the time that I spend with her.
If she tells me that she loves me, I won't tell her then.
I will wait another couple of weeks before I return that I love you.
I don't think every chic I date is going to meet my standards or I hers, but this is what I think caused me to fell in my past relationship. I am not a patient person and I think that's 1 of my biggest flaws.
I vow to enjoy the time I have with people in general in the present, without thinking about tomorrow. I think that alone will help prepare me for dating, not now, but when I am ready.
I've got so much baggage that it will take 6 months to inventory. When i used to date, i told my " potentials" from the very first or second that i have issues ( but no detail) and what kind of relationship i am looking for. I dont have the desire or the time to spend weeks or months bonding with someone, opening myself up to this person only for him to say :" omg! I had no idea you have been through so much . I just cant handle it.. "
I m sure that there is a person out there who understands you and will be able to act in ways that eases your pain and anxiety.