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What are peoples views on healthy relationship

PAMJIT
PAMJIT
What would you call a healthy relationship, looking at it in every angle. I guess people want different things, i am in a mixed relationship which no one in my family approve of. Its both getting to us and im finding it harder and harder to cope. I dont feel content. I guess i want someone to provide me with a good future and security cus i dont really have that, until that happens i cant break away from my family.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think you're right a healthy relationship is somewhat subjective. However placing the emphasis on someone else providing you with a good future & security is a lot to put on a person. Why is it you need this from the other person instead of striving for that for yourself?
koolman
koolman
Amen, Pictrite. Couldn't have said it better myself.

Even if your partner could "provide" that security, they're going to feel a sense of ownership, i.e. they want something for their money. Therefore, you're beholden to this person, indebted to them.

My ideal healthy relationship is: Flying free, TOGETHER.

Both partners have their own thing going on financially and career-wise, are together because they WANT to be.
deleted_user
deleted_user
a healthy & loving relationship is able to complement not complete their partner and adapt, overcoming great challenges over time making it long lasting.
koolman
koolman
Takes a willingness to work on it, as well as finding pleasure in working on it, in both partners. If there's genuine joy and pleasure in the interaction, the "work" isn't so hard.

I think it's helping each other laugh, that's a lot of it.

And a gleam in the eye with regards to appreciating each other's physical attributes.

And a genuine mutual giving, of spiritual and material resources, to propel the whole thing forward.

Can't get lazy...got to keep communicating, reassessing, exploring fresh ideas and concepts...