A good friend did recently ask me what I am looking for in a man. Honestly, I have come to discover some things that I never did have with nsetbx. (That list is LENGTHY!) Also from many I have shared with, I would come to realize that much of what I hoped for should not be so unrealistic.
I want someone who is compassionate and not afraid to reach out and help someone who is in need of help or guidance. (Me included , haha)... and actually would not be upset with me for doing the same.
I need to find someone who accepts me just as I am.Someone who will listen and allow me to share anything that is on my mind....good, bad, and naughty too. (and he will do the same with me) We may not agree on everything, but will not judge or try to conform the other to our way of thinking.
Someone who is strong, assured and independent. Someone that I can turn to for advice and help if I struggle with a problem. (I am so very tired of trying to deal with everything all alone)
Someone who is attracted to me. I am painfully aware of how much importance there is on looks. Not being a raving beauty, I try like hell to look beyond the outer shell and get to know others both inside and out. (I am happy to discover there are some men who do think the same way) I can just as easily fall for a gorgeous smile and devilish twinkle in someone's eyes as i discover more qualities he may have that I admire. For me (and hopefully him) it is not all about the boobs, butt, or the size of his package. lol (excuse my bluntness please.)
I need to find someone who wants to spend time with me. (and not just for a quick boink here or there) I am not talking joined at the hip. We both need time and space to unwind and do our own thing.... but someone who may give a hand fixing dinner sometimes. I want to be able to sit down and share dinners and a bit of conversation . (With stbx, he is often "not hungry" or even awake when dinner is ready ... so I fix him a platter and the dog and I have dinner by ourselves)
I really do love to cook , like to try to keep a tidy house (but will be lived in. I do not think I can survive with someone with OCD...lol) and don't even mind laundry. That being said, I have learned that men who are divorced or have been on their own forever are used to doing all that for themselves. I am hoping to find someone willing to share some of the load with me.
I have craved and missed affection and just a simple touch for so long. I need someone who is affectionate, passionate and does want and need that part of his life back as well. (I cannot go into details on this one as my thoughts may be censored and I would be booted off DS. Suffice to say, I am glad I have my imagination .....that may be all I get. lol)
I am a firm believer that two people who do truly love each other should both work together making things easier and better ...... and each other a better person. (In my current marriage, I feel more tugging, confrontation, and obstacles in my way making it more difficult forme to do as I want and need to do. definitely f**ed up)
Fear seems to be cunsuming every part of me. Even my dreams. How do all of you cope with it? How do you continue to function when all you can do is worry about the future of your loved one?
This group is sorely lacking in activity these days... here's hoping we can get it going again in no time flat! How's about a good 'ol "what kind of ..... are you?" type of quiz?! https://www.buzzfeed.com/sarahaspler/what-kind-of-cheesecake-are-you?utm_term=.ra8vvz1bj#.gdlggX0DE(Who doesn't wonder what kind of cheesecake they are, right?! It's like the greatest philosophical question of...