Hey Meggie, how are you? I'd say you're being hard on yourself... I think you have it better than what many wish they can experience... And no one is envious either I am happy with my peace... However, I think life is so much better when we (in general) talk about how good we have it than it is to be focusing on the downside of the reality of an unequal lot of findings with life... Anyway, I have become a dailystrength.org user now so more than before, for the equal perhaps reason as you... INCOMPATIBILITY... :D However, I am still a happy persona and friend!

Thank you!!! i appreciate you so much!!

Big hug Meggie.... I'm sorry that you're struggling sweetie.... There is also a good Loneliness board on here that might also be of help to you

I'm glad that you've found us.... xo

Many of us prefer to be one to one for conversations or socializing. Perhaps it’s being an introvert? We can feel lost and lonely in a crowd. I’m going to encourage you to find an activity you might enjoy where you can talk to someone individually. Or maybe like a discussion group or class, such as a book club or knitting group or church class or anything. I feel less alone in a small group than in a big noisy bar group where I don’t know anyone. Many people feel isolated and alone with the pandemic and even now.

Yes! Thank you! My sister keeps pressuring me to go out to a club to see a band- I love music. I enjoy concerts. But I don’t really like the club scene anymore. I did that in my 20s. I do like talking to people one on one or in very small groups but she doesn’t stop she is relentless. I’m trying to be polite but it is frustrating. I will have to look for a book club near me. It’s just hard to join things and be the new person-but I am doing my best. Thank you so much!!

Meggie, have you tried to get your happy husband to join you on a date night, solo, just the two of you to rekindle the spark between you both!?!

The reason I ask is that he, your husband, sounds like he does like who he is (about himself) around you! That's powerful... Give yourself some credit!!

And again, we all know that sibling rivalry does occur even in the best of families. And it's hard to get the same level of respect, we, as in the personas involved, deserve from one another, it is best to focus on your own esteem in general.

It did help and has helped me tremendously to focus on what I have accomplished, then to lean on my own understanding and focus on what I seem to think to lack...

Again, I am so glad you're doing the best you can for yourself, which is to speak up!! Always, voice your concern to your significant other, your husband, because I know many wishes to have what you have at this moment!! Don't feel lonely, get his attention!! Make it fun for him to chase you!!

Stay Lovely... <3

Hello,
I am new to this support group and your story is so relatable, I feel those moments too. In a town that I reside in there are plenty of toxic people that I choose not to interact with, which is okay by me. It is better not to be friends with them and just learn to focus on myself and get better that way. Just be good with who you are and love yourself first. Little steps is all it takes. Good luck

I totally feel your pain! I actually posted about people being "busy" I took on bike riding years ago because I was lonely. Friends were married and had kids, family was busy, any new single friends I met were all toxic. I gave up! I found comfort in bike riding and found may bike trails and would just go to them all. I also joined meetup.com to do some hiking. I to was nervous being new and couldn't believe how nice people were and embraced you. Work had some happy hour each week and I picked and chose which one to go to. And it always felt great when I denied some of them because it was a beautiful day and I had a date with my bike :)
Winter was a challenge, but I also loved staying home with a blanket and watching TV all day! Or going to the store and buying g stuff to make chili or a soup. Lol! I bought snow shoes, and what a challenge that was lol!

Now I have a child and all that has changed. I actually wish I can afford a pool! But I take her places and winter time will be sledding and snowmen. Sometimws I miss my quite life,

Good typing skills it does come with age, knowledge, and wisdom. Good intentions and best wishes for you too, asphaltcowboy65... All totally seem to deserve a healthy relationship!

Thank you, everyone. Each message means so much. I’m trying to get to a point where I can feel comfortable trying new things. I want to- I don’t want to stay in this funk. Hugs to you all!