Healthy Relationships Support Group
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Hello there...I was living with my high school sweetheart after many years in the relationship when he proposed. It was not a perfect relationship, we had broken up many times in the past, and had ups and downs but it was the person I wanted to grow old with. A few months after he proposed he starting acting weird and distant, and didnt know if "this was the right thing anymore" , long story short, there was another woman he was chatting up with. I was destroyed not just by his betrayal but by his lies, and the way he was treating me and how he made me feel. So I called off the wedding and kicked him out! It was the hardest thing I ever had to do and living all alone didnt help. I have never felt this lonely in my life. I never knew solitude till now. My family is not a reliable source at this time which really makes me feel like it is me against the world.
All I want is for someone to hug me and tell me they love me. is that too much to ask? how do you fight off this monster call solitude? no one should feel alone. I think dealing with a heartbreak while experiencing loneliness has to be one of the worst things one can experience.
anyone out there dealing with a similar situation?
thank you!
Sorry things are so stressful in your life right now. I am also getting over the breakup of my first relationship after my divorce so I feel like it is a double whammy. As with my situation I discovered that I am horribly co-dependent. I always put my exes needs first and mine second. I "lived" for them. This is bad because when it falls apart, you feel horribly alone as your partner was your best friend and lover. I am working on breaking this habit before I try to move on to another relationship. I have been horribly lonely since my breakup with my ex boyfriend. I have started going to the gym, hanging out with friends etc.
If you need a friend I am here for you
It's lonely now, but things will get better. The holidays are a tough time for all of us on our own.
Rest assured that you did the right thing.
Have you looked into meetup groups in your area? That is one way to get out of your place, which is probably full of memories of your ex.
In time you will meet someone new, this time being a better judge of character.
And yes, I would rather feel lonely than alone in a relationship. I really am proud of myself for not allowing someone to use me and disrespect me. I do feel there is someone better for me out there...guess just have to be patient for now!
Thank you all!