I have been seeing the same man on and off for almost a year. It has been a bit of a roller coaster ride of a relationship with a break up after the first few months when he claimed he did not feel that emotional connection. I was hurt and surprised as I thought things were going very well.
Eventually after a few months of me being back in the dating pool and friendly communication with him, we started seeing each other once again. I was very hesitant and even confronted him about his previous comment of his lack of emotional connection, but he laughingly denied saying it. I believe perhaps that he felt things were moving too quickly and he became afraid. When we started seeing other again we both were signed up on dating sites. Once I felt that things were going well I decided to hide my profile and told him so. Although he did not say that he did the same, I checked and found that he did.
All was good for a while. He is a kind hearted person who treats me very well. We have shared great times together, seeing each other on a regular basis, even introduced our kids to our new friend. I did not give the online dating issue another thought, until this past month. One day I just got a sinking feeling in my stomach that something wasn't right. Nothing he did or said just a feeling. I decided to check the dating site & sure enough he had been active! I was so hurt and felt betrayed. I immediately confronted him and he said nothing had changed, his account was still active as it had been, he was not seeing anyone else, did not want to see anyone else, he was just perusing the site as "entertainment". He is in a tough spot right now both personally & professionally and has had bouts of semi-depression. Although I feel bad for him & his situation I totally disagree with going on any site for entertainment. It is misleading to the person on the other end and his actions inflicted feelings of hurt and betrayal on me. After our talk , he apologized and expressed again how stressed he is at the moment. Once again his profile was hidden. We got together this past week for dinner and had one of our best dates.
But that sick feeling came back to me once again yesterday and I found his profile was up & now back down today.
I cannot take this emotional turmoil anymore. I know he is suffering and maybe goes online for the ego boost, but it is not fair to me. I deserve better. I really care for him but I have to wonder how he truly feels about me. Should I give him an ultimatum knowing that he is in such a bad place right now, or should I try to be patient?

Thanks for reading my saga, I value your responses.