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I've been with my boyfriend for just over four months now and things have been pretty good so far. but i've noticed recently he's been really busy and he's almost avoiding talking to me. he never answers his phone and he always turns up late when he comes over to stay with me. he also tends to just go on about himself when i'm with him and its really annoying me because he never seems to want to know how I am or how I'm doing with uni. I really like him but i'm wondering if the novelty of our relationship is beginning to wear off. we were really good friends before too so i dont know if that has anything to do with it. i don't want my only option to be breaking up with him. any advice? i'm really struggling with what to do right now.
Wow... that hurt my brain a little right there. Big thought... little brain.
Seemingly unrelated to your post, but the "two sides to every relationship" title got me expecting a different subject matter. Where you are saying that you would to get back what you put in, which is a valid request... most times the "it takes two to tango" is being used to divert responsibility for one's own actions... and has been my experience that most people that say that are abusers or who have acted badly and want the other to take half the responsibility for their own actions.
Not the case with you, nor your post.
Uni? OHHHH University. for those not versed in British-ese, that means college here in the states.
I'm afraid my rambling advise would be to move on if in the early stages of the relationship, if you are more invested than I would advise seeking some sort of couples counseling to try to bridge the communication gap and get your needs met.