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riseup98 03/14/2013

I've had many relationships in my life in terms of quantity, but not a healthy dose of quality. I seem to become bored rather too quickly when the chemistry in the relationship doesn't meet what my spirit seems to desire.

Sexually, most women are aggressive, which is to my liking, but I long for the kindred closeness, the oneness, the feeling that we are in each others skin. Can anyone understand what I'm trying to say ? And does anyone here enjoy that experience now ?

onetoomany 03/14/2013

Yes I do understand what you mean. No I do not have that now. But would love to have it.

deleted_user 03/14/2013

I too understand what you are saying...I have not experienced that with anyone, but I long for it. I think many people get that type of closeness confused with a sexual connection.

riseup98 03/14/2013

Thank you for your honestly to this very important question about the very( essence of love ). Other than time itself, I wonder what mixture of ingredients help to produce that pure, genuine relationship where two people become totally as one.

Rise

Aronia 03/14/2013

I have it now. Never had this with anyone else and he feels the same. I don't know how long it will last.. Hopefully forever.
It has not been an easy relationship by any means, but I think we overcame a lot of problems and finally settled down.

riseup98 03/14/2013

Aronia,

I am so happy for you, feeling your personality assures me your zenith level of love will last forever. I 'm also sure it has helped in your recovery in a big way............ Kudos my dear friend !

Rise

Aronia 03/14/2013

(((( HUG))))
Thank you for the kind words.
I ll post the photos when we take the leap some day.

onetoomany 03/14/2013

@Aronia, how long have you two been together?

koolman 03/14/2013

Kindred spirits: Yes, I understand what you're trying to say! You need a tender, gentle soul.

I enjoy that experience now, with an Asian woman. Short of no sex, aside from kissy and cuddly, I think we've got a pretty good relationship. She and I really connect with it comes to talking about technology and money, and she deeply touches my tender core.

riseup98 03/14/2013

Koolman'

That's what I'm talking about....Touching that tender core as you brilliantly described. Take it slow, the sex will soon be as tender as your heart has become. Kudos Koolman !

I'll be there if I keep my heart and my eyes focused.

Rise

koolman 03/14/2013

Thanks, riseup.

Sometimes it's just a matter of relaxing, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable-! Then trusting the world, God, the cosmos, karma, whatever you're into, to, in the fullness of time, work its magic.

These forces move very slowly (the universe is a very big place to continually evolve), so you have to be patient. We all like instant gratification, but don't get angry if what you seek is not instantly there, like I sometimes do lol!

Aronia 03/14/2013

Onetoomany, it will be 3 years soon, but we knew of each other for probably 4-5 years before we actually went out on a date

riseup98 03/14/2013

Koolman,

You speak with advanced wisdom. You must have conversations with your soul, which suggest that oneness in you is becoming parallel to the point where you have something to offer a women at your spiritual and philosophical level. But don't let the smooth taste fool you and go astray. Stay with what you have and good luck !

Rise

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