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Took your advice….

sunnyjax
sunnyjax

Yes I took your advice! woohooo!


I have been NC now for 6 days. I have changed my phone number and email and set up new social media.


He is nowhere. He cant get to me anywhere. 


I feel better this week for it too.


Yeh I get the pangs and the 'wonder what he's doing' thing in my head but I shove it away and crack on keeping busy. Keeping busy has been my saviour really. I have got so much done! I make a list and set myself targets for what I need to achieve and this is helping my self-esteem too. 



So thank you DS friends, I feel like Im on the road to better health and strength and a stronger me.


x

rmb
rmb
So glad! It's going to just make you stronger!
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Good for you... I'm glad you feel safe and empowered.... Big hug....xo
yorman1
yorman1
Sunny, you should look at it as becoming a whole person....You will no longer NEED somebody, unless you choose to have another. However you can be self sufficient alone. That is a very attractive quality to a quality male
sunnyjax
sunnyjax
yorman1.
I know exactly what you mean about becoming whole. Part of me is sad as I would like to have someone who is interested in my day etc. (Also I miss intimacy!) so I guess this means I still have a way to go. I think part of that is because I have relocated and don't have anyone here that I know yet. I have looked to join a few groups and societies for things I like to do and I hope to make some friends then. I plan on having a rich and varied life. Right now though I am working on enjoying this time when I can focus on myself for a bit. Learn about myself some more. Test my limits etc.
I know I will be okay. x
yorman1
yorman1
Intimacy, I agree, it seems that is what keeps us so vulnerable to returning to our old ways, or we become addicted to alcohol or drugs to fill that void. If you think about it we cannot be WHOLE if we allow ourselves to be dependent on either. It is not easy but when you arrive you will certainly feel much better about yourself.. Remember nothing wrong with dating, or whatever :).....the issue is you don't become dependent on that one person until you can walk away at any time with no hurt for yourself...xo
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