Hi, just want to know if I am being over the top, or did she bait me. I been going out with this women, she is 60 & I am 62, for 21 months, we been exclusive, but we broke up, but got back together. (Won't go into the issues, but it wasn't this) When we got back together we professed our deep Love for each other, but she seems always stressed about this or that, but I love her. Anyway, she said, a week ago, Sunday that maybe we should also date others, and I was shocked, and say I can't do that, if I love you. How could I.

Then she said, ok, we'll see how things go. She mentioned she feels I would always be her love etc. someway, somehow.

So she calls me Monday to come over. I do, we have a great time. Then calls me to come over on halloween, and she cooks dinner etc, another great time, and very grateful she spent the time to do all of that.

Last nite, I tried to text her, but no answer, so I text back, Cool, you must be out and about! You know just to let her know I am thinking of her. We use to see each other about 5-6 times a week. That's a lot I know.
She got back to me saying she is feeling stressed etc. but nice msg.

So, today I saw a band I know she would love to see, and mentioned that it would be a lot of fun. and help with her stress, etc. I called N/A

She text me back, about 1 hour later saying
"Sweetie I am busy tonight".

That hurt me. That's like I am washing my hair or something. If she would have said, I am too tired, etc, I would have been cool with that.

So, I thought by her not even telling what, she was dating, without saying it, so my mind ran with that. I text back 15 minutes later, that I couldn't live like that. I can't Love someone and date others.

She called, and I went into that true love is about dating the one you love etc, and how I think maybe love , her defientiion and mine are two things.

Then she tells me she is going to a play at church with her girlfriends and tells me how stressed in life she is about her daughters (they don't even live with her) and now it's her time, and she doesn't owe anyone a explaination about what she wants to do etc. etc.
She is 60, and doesn't have to tell anyone anything. She can come and go as she pleases.

Where I agree with that. I have never cared about where she goes, and if in the past I would say lets go out, and she would say she is too tired, or made plans with some friends, I was fine with all that. Really I was. I am not possessive, or a stalker. Never

I just felt the statement I am Busy, sweetie to be so curt and to me misleading giving her statement Sunday. I thought, just common couresty like going with friends, or I am tired or whatever would do.

But she ranted on about paying all the bills for her house, and she doesn't want to be responsible for people etc, etc, or things. I mean a blow up, much beyond this incident. Like she carefully pick those words to complete her belief, know I might wonder why she is busy.

She never said I was busy too me before , so it was very hurtful, and misleading. I thought so curt, so she must of had a date, and didn't want to say, I am dating.

If it was me I would just say, going with the guys sweetheart, I loved to go out tomorow. Again, she owes me nothing, and I want her to do whatever she wants , when she wants.

I just felt, Busy Sweetie, was so, so Cold, and lead me to beleive she had a date. Yeah, I didn't know what else to think, after our conversation Sunday.

Thanks for reading