Big hug Sarah...... Very few people with bipolar disorder do well off meds and not for long

It's a disorder of brain chemistry and that needs help.... I was diagnosed over thirty years ago and we have a very treatable disorder... Not curable but treatable....

You're right you aren't responsible for his mental health and nor can you be.... There's is good help to be had

Therapy is a great tool however we almost always need to be on a med or med regime.... Big hug.....xo

I am sorry for your predicament, this is not an easy situation. But you might have to do something soon because your kids are growing up and this is not a healthy environment for them. If he is not even taking his meds, he might be getting worse until one day who knows what. Try to get some advice from friends and relatives and think about yourself and your kids first.

have a plan ready and use it. You cannot be everything and do everything. They will never change unless they want to. You need to place your kids and yourself first. You can do it. It is hard, but it can be done. Hugs.

I was thinking about your kids. Like you said, this situation is bad for them. But don’t make threats you can’t or won’t follow through on. Expect the unexpected from the spouse, meaning he may escalate his dysfunction instead of getting help but he might not. I’d suggest you prepare yourself to take the kids and leave or have him move out. Go to a family law attorney for advice. You may need some kind of proof he can’t parent properly at this time. Stay strong and do what you need to do. We can’t make people change but we can change ourselves. Maybe you also need support from other people with loved ones with mental illness. Check and see if there is a NAMI group like this in your area. Resist feeling guilty that you can’t make this man choose to seek help. Allow consequences.