Playing games may get you *more* attention, but is that really the kind of attention you want? I don't necessarily agree that it is "better" attention.

I think a lot of women are used to the game playing, so we get to a point where it is expected, and we learn to play the game right back. But, it gets exhausting; it gets old. Game playing is essentially deceit, and who really wants a relationship based on that? Not me....

I am in a new relationship and the guy has played zero games with me. He is open and honest about everything. At times he is TOO open and honest, but to be truthful, I rather have that than a guy who just holds back and won't show his cards because if he does, then he won't be able to play the game. Its very refreshing to know that we don't have to go through that game playing phase. We are able to be on the same page about a lot of things without always having to guess what's going on with the other person.

So.....be yourself.

I, myself, do not like games. There is a nice way or a bad way to express opinions, so you'd just have to be careful with that.
The other guys are probably just after another notch in their belt....

Define "women"...

It all depends on what type of person you want to attract.

If you play a game (man or woman), it is usually pretending to be something, or someone, that you're not. So this false persona may be pleasing the other person, BUT they are giving attention to whom you are pretending to be. I'd advise you to continue being your real, true self from the beginning. Then whatever woman you attract will WANT the real you. It's a win-win situation!

What do you want? A meaningless fling or a long term relationship? If you are out for something serious and long term, you need to be yourself. In the long run that's who you will have to be. You can only play a game for so long. Most people with a brain will figure the game out eventually. And when they do, you can never expect it to go over well. Personally, I find "playing games" disgusting.

Game playing is for boys, not men!

Women do it too. I don't condone it at all.

Just to put a spin on this, I would like to ask for specifics.
What is your attitude towards women that other men would recommend for you to hide? Just curious.

Thank you so much for all of your responses.

I find them comforting as they all seem to be what I agree with myself and it's also helpful to hear so many women share the same opinion on this topic.

I m thinking your statement sounds great but it is also very non-specific. What would be the example of " playing games" ? What would be the example of being yourself and honest about relationships?

I'm not a woman, but I'd say: Be yourself...your BEST self, the funniest, most loving self TOWARD HER that you can be. Try to control bitching and negativity. It is a potential relationship killer. And I AM speaking from experience on this. My anger and general dissatisfaction with life sometimes gets in the way of what could be a great love.