Healthy Relationships Support Group
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I met a man 3.5 years ago by accident. We were at a casino one night and somehow the discussion of divorce came up. I just went through one and he was getting ready to go through one. That became the beginning of a friendship.
We texted once a week or so. Knew about each others significant others, were happy for each other, etc.
Come September i realized he was texting me a lot more and i felt something was a bit different. Come to find out, he and his gf broke up. We discussed as friends would, but then one night things changed. He advised he was having different thoughts about me. To be honest, it was a pleasure to hear because i think he is a wonderful man, great father, good work ethic. I just dont know what to think or do.
See problem is he lives in Nebraska and me in Missouri.
We met in the middle in December for a weekend and had a great time. Very comfortable, so nice to see and talk in person. Problem is we got physical. After that weekend, there has not gone a day without talking and it just feels right. Im just bothered by the distance.
To me, long distance just doesnt work long term unless someone is willing to pickup and leave to go to the other.
What are your thoughts on Long distance?
We texted once a week or so. Knew about each others significant others, were happy for each other, etc.
Come September i realized he was texting me a lot more and i felt something was a bit different. Come to find out, he and his gf broke up. We discussed as friends would, but then one night things changed. He advised he was having different thoughts about me. To be honest, it was a pleasure to hear because i think he is a wonderful man, great father, good work ethic. I just dont know what to think or do.
See problem is he lives in Nebraska and me in Missouri.
We met in the middle in December for a weekend and had a great time. Very comfortable, so nice to see and talk in person. Problem is we got physical. After that weekend, there has not gone a day without talking and it just feels right. Im just bothered by the distance.
To me, long distance just doesnt work long term unless someone is willing to pickup and leave to go to the other.
What are your thoughts on Long distance?
I dated someone long distance and we broke up exactly for this reason and we only lived 4 hours apart. We both had kids and they had to live where they live .
We probably both know its not going to work.
I just want to know if marriage is in the future. It makes me sad we might be breaking up but I am willing to. I am pretty happy in my life with me. So I am not sure about this myself.
Are you willing to move to Nebraska?? Is he willing to move to Missouri?? Do either of you have a flexible enough life and money to live in both places? Or travel more often to the other?? If not, certainly it makes no sense to remain exclusive. Assuming either of you are exclusive. Otherwise, it's just a place holder, isn't it?
My eldest son and his now wife managed a long distance relationship for 5 years stretching across 2 continents by skyping each other daily and travelling to be with each other about twice a year. He finally married her and relocated to her country, and now they are incredibly happily married. So it can work.
It just really depends on what you are looking for in life and whether you are willing to compromise to make it happen.
But it is not easy.