Healthy Relationships Support Group
No relationship is perfect. A long-term relationship requires constant effort to understand each other, fix misunderstandings, solve problems and continue to grow as both individuals change and evolve. How we deal with our misunderstandings is the focus of this community. Join us to find support, get advice, and share your experience with your relationship.
I can't believe it's finally happened. My best friend and I moved in together a year ago, then I stupidly fell in love with her (she still doesn't know), and now she is giving me one month, then she's moving out, which means I have to move out. This is extremely difficult in itself, but she is right that it will keep our relationship healthy - I have spent too long needing her, and I have become a burden, and put expectations on her. It is all my fault. But I'm going to miss seeing her every day, and cooking dinner for her, and asking how her day went. I'm going to miss my cat. I'm going to miss having someone to share my life with. I don't know what to do.
Have you even tried to kiss her? Bottling how you feel will create more dysfunction than just having the feeling. You want to be her boyfriend.
Back in my day getting it on often involved alcohol and the offer of a massage. A guy could usually work something out of that.
hard to know what advice to give you when I don't know what you have attempted. But it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all: you got to run the risk if you want the success.
You don't lose friends by trying it on with them. They might say no, and avoid you for a couple of months, which would be what you'd need to get over it, but a friend is a friend pretty much forever. If they are a real friend, that is.
So run the risk. Tell her. 'if only I had's' are far harder to live with than anything else in life. You gotta be in to win. And to be honest you have very little left to lose anyway.