I'm with you OldCoger, kindness is really the only trait that's important out of those listed.

Attractiveness and social status/wealth are great, but they can both change at any given time in life for various reasons.

Opps, sorry didn't mean to drop the "d" from your name Codger, I realized it right after I hit sent, my apologies.

LOL, I failed to notice it.

For me, I think kindness should be number one, but it is not. I have to be attracted to someone physically, and I think attractiveness is number one for me out of the three qualities. Social status/wealth is not big one for me. I prefer someone who is financially stable, but do not like someone who is super wealthy. I would feel intimidated dating someone from money. I actually dated someone with a lot of money, and was not interested. He was very stuck up, was not attracted physically that much, and the only thing he had was money. I was not interested.

I think the number one quality that turns me on is intelligence, not any of these qualities. Someone who is too nice turns me off. Someone who has too much money, I cannot relate to. Physical attractiveness is definitely not everything.

Men relate beauty to intelligence, so intelligence is important to men as well even if looked for it seems in the wrong place.

Beauty equals intelligence!!!!!!!!! bwwhahahah
That just made my day, thank you.

Do you have any evidence on this?

It's simply funny how my girlfriend and I handle problems we can't or shouldn't fix. She wants me to empathize with her, and I want her to distract me.

If a woman knows how to take care of herself, properly grooms herself to look good, that is a form of intelligence, yes.

But she can exert concentrated effort in other aspects of her life, like work, making money, caring for children, animals, the elderly, etc., wake up on Saturday with bed-head, no makeup, raggedy clothes and not give a damn, and still be intelligent and very beautiful and sexy to me, because she has character, knows her own mind and knows how to direct concentrated effort to achieve a desired positive result.

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't interested in the visual, what stimulates lust in the eyes which stimulates lust in the loins. But kindness is ultimately what I would like to live with. Kindness is what makes many a woman look beautiful to me.

I could care less about her social status, as long as she is financially solvent, not a gold-digging leech or otherwise a financial burden, and knows how to work for what she wants in life. I had an Asian-American princess who works but hates working and just wants to be lazy and be taken care of, and it got old real fast. It was boring and I didn't enjoy being used.

I can't speak for all women but I know the Asian-American princess I was into was absolutely very clearly obsessed with wealth, status, luxury, extravagance, as her number one driving force. Money does provide cush, make things comfortable, I'll give it that, and it gives us the freedom to travel, etc., which is nice. In that sense, I like money. But I don't like being a slave to money and being a slave to working. There's more to life than working all the time. There's fun. There's sleeping in. There's freedom of thought.

I think being attractive in my eyes is very important. If I'm not attracted to them I wouldn't want to "be" with them. And that's not saying it's all about looks, just having something about them I'm attracted to. Doesn't matter how much money they have. If they're unattractive to me, I don't want to get naked with them.
Kindness is second and intelligence is third.

Wisdom is a form of intelligence, it is when one is smart enough to only make the same mistake once, something born with intelligence people surprisingly struggle with.

My research source is the book titled The Science Of Happy Ever After by Ty Tashiro.

It's official, attractiveness and wealth do not guarantee happily ever after.

This is consistent with my beliefs as I have never been a materialistic person, and I have always looked for beauty within as opposed to without.

I admire human beauty, I believe it to be the greatest art form in the world but that is where attractiveness ends for me, it is not the be all and end all.