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My husband and I are having a debate regarding the use of terms of endearment.
He uses terms of endearment with his female facebook friends because he wants his female friends to feel at home with him. He wants his female friends to feel that they can talk to him about almost anything. He wants his female friends to feel like they are family.
The tems of endearment he uses are...
hon
darling
sweetie
and so on
I am the opposite. I just do not understand the need for that.
Is this really necessary?
He uses terms of endearment with his female facebook friends because he wants his female friends to feel at home with him. He wants his female friends to feel that they can talk to him about almost anything. He wants his female friends to feel like they are family.
The tems of endearment he uses are...
hon
darling
sweetie
and so on
I am the opposite. I just do not understand the need for that.
Is this really necessary?
I use nicknames when I can't be bothered to use someone's real name. Calling someone sweetie, doll, sunshine....sparky puts them on an impersonal list in my head.
Likewise it doesn't bother me at all when I'm called that... nor would it bother me if my GF called others Hon or something similar.
I don't believe I call my friend's husbands nicknames...that seems inappropriate.
Some people just do that. I know, living down south, guys in stores, etc call me hon and sweetie.
Probably not.
I'm simply reminded of the Shirley McClaine/Debra Winger movie.
I ask if its necessary these girls feel "at home" with him to begin with.
Why does he need these girls to feel that level of comfort with him - especially at the cost of yours?
I would not be ok with.
Besides I don't like when people that I barely know or met for the 1st time treat like that, it makes me very uncomfortable.