I don't know if you can convince him and even if you do convince him to go, unless he wants to do it and takes it seriously, counseling won't do any good on his part.

Counseling only works when it's taken seriously, the person admits to whatever issues there are, is open and honest with ther therapist and anyone else involved and is willing to work with the therapist.

If you can't convince him to go or he goes but doesn't participate openly in it, you and your daughter should still go.

i agree I am definately going to go with her, but I am afraid I will want to leave him again due to counseling. Not sure if I can be objective for her sake.

Well counseling won't make you want to leave him, it just helps you sort out and understand your true feelings. I went 4 years to therapy, started out for one issue (rape) and dealing with PTSD due to that but the last year or so of going it helped me admit to my true feelings about my marraige, my life, a lot of things I was ignoring or just pushing down and not admitting to. It basically gave me the strength and courage to dig deep inside myself and figure myself out, what I wanted and needed in my life. IMO, getting into therapy was the wisest choices I ever made.

I wish either of my parents were willing to even be in the same room together. They wouldnt be able to talk through their issues without starting to blame eachother. The only way I could do group counceling is if it was one on one.