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key
key

I’m still fighting with my boyfriend to gain his trust back. I feel like he brings up the same things that he’s forgiven me for in the  past and I feel like he almost wants me to admit to something I didn’t do. It’s almost as he creates this story in his head and if my answer isn’t what he thinks it should be and he interrogates me to the point where I get emotional and angry because I don’t know how else to defend myself and he claims that that’s how he knows I’m lying. Am I crazy and in denial? Or is there another way I can make him understand? Advice anyone? Thanks 

GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
I replied to your other post, but he seems immature and he probably will never ever let this go and you should NOT be punished for whatever you did before you even met him and if you are this upset with him and the relationship now, it's not going to get any better than this. You haven't been together that long... think about if it's worth all this.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Once something is forgiven you put it away period.... You don't keep rehashing what's been forgiven

I replied to your other post as well

If this is to continue I'd let him know that's it's over if it were me..... Again you don't deserve emotional/mental abuse....

We often tell people how to treat us key..... I believe we all deserve to be treated with respect

If he's stuck in a loop then that's on him
LynStrife
LynStrife
As someone who has been on the opposite side of this...

Obviously he hasn't forgiven you.
It sounds like he was very hurt and wants to forgive but he's still trying to wrap his head around things, which is why he keeps bringing the same things up.
If you love him and want to work it out, be patient with him and answer his questions as honestly as you can without getting angry.
Eventually he will forgive you, will stop questioning you and everything will go back to normal. The more patient you are with him, the faster that will happen.
If it's not worth it to you to do that, then you should both move on.
rmb
rmb
I'd normally agree with that philosophy of a person needing time to get his head around things and time to heal and forgive. However, there are other issues as well, such as his addiction, so in that case, I think the OP needs to really figure out if this a healthy situation for either one of them
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