Hello, I don’t normally reach out for help, I guess I am some What stubborn or private but I am struggling big time. My story.... I was a widow at 29 years of age and met my now husband John who had a son. We fell in love and things were good for a while, his son seemed to behave for most part and listen to me and respect me. I have always had to be the one to take him and pick up from school and do homework and feed him and get ready for bed since his dad gets off work at 10:30 at night. Well my step son Enzo, has become a completely different person since our families first joined. He was 7 and now is 10 years old. School is a nightmare he has been suspended multiple times for violent actions toward others he took weapons to school in form of razor blades he stole from the garage, he spends most of the days in the principal office and nothing is being done. He doesn’t care about anything because he knows that come the weekend when he goes to his moms she is going to let him have a phone to play on, YouTube which he looks up bad things on he has told us, and play violent video games such as call of duty. We have a lovely home and a one year old daughter. We have expectations and consequences. Well sadly my husband just doesn’t want to deal with it so he lets him get away with so much as well. I am always yelling and scolding and then my husband is mad at me for even caring and that it’s not my kid so who cares. I am just so frustrated. I am expected to go pick him up when he suspended but I don’t get to punish him? Or I have to sit here silently while he is supposed to be In his room as punishment but Dad let him come watch tv!!! My marriage is suffering greatly. If we didn’t have a lovely baby I would have left him. I love my husband but I am so unhappy. His mother my mother In law also lives with us so I am always teamed up on. They say that if our girl was acting this way I wouldn’t be so hard on her. I don’t agree I’d jt was my own flesh and blood behaving the way step son is I would be harder on her because she is better than that and so is my step son. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to sit like a silent figure and allow this child to destroy my home and marriage. I am just so lost and hurt. Any advice or guidance I appreciate. Thank you
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