I met a man a year ago at his place of business, which is a well known wholesale chain. We have been dating for almost a year. I know that I love him and he says that he loves me. He has been married twice. Once for nine years, which was as far as I know healthy, and the other for two years. The last marriage ended in April 2009 and it involved drinking, physical and emotional abuse for two. He told me that he will never get married again. Since his last divorce he returned to live with his mother. He stays with me for about 3-4 days in the week, although he'll contribute to dinners he does not contribute to anything else even though he does laundry, showers, watches TV, uses shampoo, razors, toilet paper etc. Once I got annoyed and told him that he needed to at least purchase a bar of soap, so he begrudingly bought soap. He does not seem to see that things cost money. I so happen to make a lot more money than he does, but for me it's the principle of the matter. The problem is he won't move in with me and he says that he is not ready. When I met him he said that he had a 1 year plan to get his own place. That year has come and gone and we stay mainly at my house as I'm not comfortable sleeping with him at his mother's house. I've asked him where we are going with this relationship and he basically says that he'll let me know. I think that this is damned selfish. Further, I'm getting quite resentful because I feel that he mouches off of me. I wonder sometimes if he'll ever get his own place or if he'll stay at his mother's house indefinetly to avoid commiting to me. Am I being to hasty? I'm also wondering if I should just call it a day?? Another problem is that he's an alcoholic. I didn't realize this until I was well in to the relationship with him. Not sure what the future if any holds for us. He is a wonderful person most of the time and his family treat me very well.