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So so frustrated

steve702
steve702

I can’t even talk to her about our ex less marriage any more. It’s been two years. I stopped trying a year or so ago. The rejection is to humiliating . 

rmb
rmb
What does she say when you talk to her about it?
steve702
steve702
She says . You want me to do it when I don’t want to? We have had endless conversations about it. I guess we just lost the emotional connection. Just have to start over I guess. Like going on dates.
jojored
jojored
I think many women need that emotional connection to be intact in order for them to want sex. So what's happened otherwise between the two of you for her to not feel that connection? Take the issue of sex off the table, and have a heart to heart with her. Ask her how she feels about the two of you, about her job, the kids, her extended family. Is there something she's struggling with that she's not sharing? Perhaps she can find a good counselor she feels comfortable opening up to. If she can get a handle on the emotional side of her life, perhaps the rest will follow. Be supportive for sure, but don't let the issue drag on indefinitely without the both of you working on the relationship.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Have you ever asked her to go to couples therapy?

You can certainly give the same answer back to her.... Do you want me to stay in a marriage without any physical gratification

There is a lot of help to try and get the spark back into your marriage if you both want to put in the effort

Big hug......xo
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