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Jeez my husband is the most negative put-down man I have ever met.
Not only did he tell me last night that if I just lay still during sex he would be able to perform better (!) and I would achieve orgasm better....! ....'you just leave it to me darling' he says.
I did tell him that him growling at me to' hurry up and come' was a bit off putting but...not his fault, its mine for not coming!!! OMG!
I was so shocked how he thought that was a decent thing to say. I was speechless.
The time he is reffering to is because I was squirming trying to get him to hit the spot - I was so frustrated. But according to him its all my own fault!
No idea how to respond to that.
and then he tutted and rolled his eyes at how useless I am at completing an application form for a house we hope to rent. in his eyes I did it all wrong.
Its not that he comes out and says I am rubbish or useless, its the way he looks and tuts and walks off shaking his head. He does it to everyone, the last person who worked with him in the office had to leave as her self-esteem was so beaten down she was in tears nearly every day - thats exactly what he does to me!!!
How do I let him make me feel that way!
Gawd...jeez.
so cross with myself.
Not only did he tell me last night that if I just lay still during sex he would be able to perform better (!) and I would achieve orgasm better....! ....'you just leave it to me darling' he says.
I did tell him that him growling at me to' hurry up and come' was a bit off putting but...not his fault, its mine for not coming!!! OMG!
I was so shocked how he thought that was a decent thing to say. I was speechless.
The time he is reffering to is because I was squirming trying to get him to hit the spot - I was so frustrated. But according to him its all my own fault!
No idea how to respond to that.
and then he tutted and rolled his eyes at how useless I am at completing an application form for a house we hope to rent. in his eyes I did it all wrong.
Its not that he comes out and says I am rubbish or useless, its the way he looks and tuts and walks off shaking his head. He does it to everyone, the last person who worked with him in the office had to leave as her self-esteem was so beaten down she was in tears nearly every day - thats exactly what he does to me!!!
How do I let him make me feel that way!
Gawd...jeez.
so cross with myself.
Take your power back, girlfriend.
Sometimes he just says things which really throw me!
Im beginning to realise his version of loving someone isnt quite the same as everyone else's....
he is very manipulative and always has to be in charge, sex is only ok if he initiates it. like all things in our life, his way or no way....
When I have initiated he seriously got cross and said he was being raped...jeeez yes really.
I said go on call the police....they can join in and laughed it off but Im not sure he realised I was even joking!!!
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Why are either of you still in this marriage?