Just don’t date him. You are in charge of who you date. He can’t make you date him. Don’t worry about hurting him.

Also even if you felt you lead him on, it doesn’t really matter. As you got to know him and evaluate things, you realize he’s not what you want. Don’t think you need to feel bad or guilty about that. Be clear by not apologizing and be direct. Don’t presume he just doesn’t understand. He doesn't take you seriously and that is ultimately disrespectful.

Hello, I feel if you and your ex separated and it was an unhealthy relationship then don't start another one that's Unhealthy . Because it will most likely end up the same way, if not worst. I myself have been in a unhealthy relationship and it's easy to fall into a routine and stay with someone just because or because you might miss your ex a lil and say to yourself well this time I can change this person so it wont End up like my last relationship.If you feel it's starting out unhealthy get out. You deserve not to settle. You deserve to have what you want and need in a relationship. It could take time to find someone but I always say to my friends stop looking, love will find you. And I honestly wouldn't hang out with this person even as friends because it will only lead into the same trap, and probably lead to hooking up. I'm sure this person has some great qualities but you have already seen the ones you know you don't want. I don't know how old you are or your situation but I do believe if you live your life, doors will open and you will have a relationship you deserve. I use to hate that saying, doors will open, but I found my true love and I honestly didn't believe it was gonna happen for me. It just felt like I was in a rut and all odds were against me. But now I'm a believer. Try new places to go, or even as lil as changing your grocery store, you never know mr right could be there. But sweetie never settle. You are to good for that.

No means no..... If you have a gut feeling I would listen to it...… Big hug.....xo

thank you all

If he doesn't take no for an answer sweetie then send him this way. I'll set him straight for you. Lol. But if he can't handle you telling him no get some of you friends or family involved. Maybe they can help you tell him. Some people feel they can pressure a person because you gave him a chance once and he probably figures well I can change her mind. No. So what if you gave him a chances a few times, once you say no, he needs to respect your descion. Be stern because people like that will keep trying until they get what they want. I wish you the best. ❤️

he is trying to teach you that your no doesn't matter to you
never let anyone else define your inner yes & no
he is trying to make you disrespect yourself
this is a great time to respect yourself and wish him all the best as you tell him that you are not interested.
be civil
be direct
and leave him no opening
do not tell him why, "i'm not interested" is sufficient, if he doesn't think so
be civil
be direct
leave him no opening, tell him that he leaves no choice but to report him to the police

thanks all. i told him. im currently dealing with the after effects of it. hurt because i liked him and though the was different. kinda confused also. but im glad i did whats best for me.

Hi ellomalley. You have to be sure to consider your own feelings. If there is something in this guy that reminds you of the bad times with your ex then consider that he is not the one. I know it can be painful to reject someone and still like them as a person. Maybe think about distancing yourself from him so that you can move on. Sorry you're in pain now but try thinking about your future and what type of guy you would like to have in your life. Glad you've thought about what is best for you.

Sounds like the guy quickly morphed into an obsessive control freak.

youre right foreverbeach21. i will move on and find the right guy for me eventually, and he wont be anything like my ex. i think it was a sign that he wasnt right for me, and koolman, yeah i dont know about that we barely knew eachother and he assumed i wanted to date so idk.