What makes you think you have the right to be so judgmental of someone else's decisions and actions.
Please don't go if you are going to go with your current attitude?

I don't know how close you are to this friend, but if it were me, personally I would not want to go either (I know some of these types of things can get pretty sexually charged, especially when there's a lot of drinking). In the past, I've asked friends to go with me (to say a concert, or game), pretty innocent (which I would have paid), and they politely decline (for whatever reason), and I was not in anyway offended in the least.

But again, I don't know how close you are to this girl (or how important to this event is to her). If she were a best friend, that has been talking about this for months, *maybe* I'd suck it up and go. But probably not (as I tend to be a stick in the mud about these kinds of things, girls parading around, getting groped and grabbed by drunks).

It isn't my kind of event.

I would say No don't go

Drrew,

I say to trust your instincts and if you don't want to go then do not go.
Don't do something that makes you uncomfortable.

I canceled. It was just a spare of the moment kind of thing.
She doesn't think things out like she should.
I guess I didn't know her like I thought.
There have been some other issues that I won't talk about.
I have made a quite a few female friends as of late.
Im just going to hang out with someone else.

I would not go.

She may not be trying to prove anything. That is an assumption. Maybe she just wants to have some fun in life and this is an opportunity she sees for that. Could be that simple for her. She very well also may be aware of the fact she may not have the physical attributes to actually win and she is okay with that. Again, maybe she is just trying to enjoy life and have some fun. She maybe away that she maybe groped by drunk guys ( and maybe a few women ) and she feels within safety comforts of that. She is an adult and has right to do as she feels she wants.

If you have this much concerns over all this and her, have you talk to her about this? That is where this she really start. Conversation between you two first. As much as you may not agree with her doing this and with all your concerns, this is not something you have the right to stop her from doing or to pass upon negative judgment on her for. This is her rights to her life. The best you can do is to talk to her. That is a plus for both of you to do.

Do you like her beyond friends? It seems like you might.

No I don't like her beyond friends.
I feel like a big brother to her.
She has told me of abuse that she's had in the past.
You'd think that she would have learned not to put herself in dangerous situations.
Actually she's told me many things. I feel sorry for her and I do things for her. I do spend a bit of money taking care of her like she's family.
The more I think about it, the more I think that she's lying.
After the contest last night she called me. She told me that she was drunk and needed a ride home. I was worried so I picked her up. The thing is she wasn't even drunk. I am kinda poor. I can't afford to to be at her beckening call. I didn't say anything to her. She asked if I was angry, I just shook my head no. I didn't look at her. I dropped her off. Another friend was with me so I had him drive my car while I drove hers.

I think she's lies off her ass to get pity.
I don't think she has been abused.
I think that she enjoys making me spend money that I don't have.
This relationship was never a relationship where I thought that I might score with her. I value friends and at first I thought she would make a good 1. I honestly think that she is a compulsive liar.
Yeah feed me a poor me story and I get all nurturing.
I feel like an idiot.

If this is how you feel and think about her and the relationship with her, than maybe this is not a healthy relationship for you to be in. Even with your heart to help, it maybe time to help yourself and move on to healthy relationships. Just a thought. You should never allow yourself to get hurt in helping someone else other than your child. Best to you in this.

These types of events are a way to bring in more money for the bar, and the win usually goes to the girl who brings in the largest cheering section. She is probably looking for a way to make some "easy" money, have fun and promote herself. I make an effort to support my friends, and I would be sitting in the front, drinking beer and cheering her on. :D

I don't care what she does anymore. It's out of my hands.

I never was 1 to tell anyone what to do. I don't speak out. If I haven't talked to you in a while, then you can probably figure that I don't really care to much about your actions. I don't think that there's any need to tell anyone how to act. They show you more of who they are that way.
She's just a write off.
Moving forward, not back.

Yeah. I don't really care if she sleeps with anyone or not
What pissed me off about this girl is the lies she's told me, the pity I felt for her, and the time and money I spent trying to help her.

Drew,

Maybe she is not a friend afterall? Maybe you were the friend to her and she was not a friend to you. You know what I mean? A true friend would not lie and a true friend would not act this way to a friend.

Maybe you should take a step back and just not contact her anymore.

It is up to you but personally I could not be friends with someone that would lie to me.

Hope you will be okay.