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Should I feel guilty for being me?

barnmaidbren
barnmaidbren
Its been 21 years and I'm tired of being made to feel bad just for being me. He is cruel controlling and beats me down emotionally every chance he gets. Why have I stayed all these years? Foolish Eternal hope is the only answer I have. I'm so tired and lonely anymore. It will a difficult journey but one I have to make. I look forward to getting to know the woman in the mirror again. I have a feeling she's not so bad after all.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Good for you!!!... 21 years is far too long to hope that something will change... If it hasn't changed thus far I doubt very much it ever will

I left a nasty relationship and I have peace of mind and a lovely quiet about me now... There is a lot to be said for it to!!... I love it... Big hug and a blessing... You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect... Another 21 years of this would be agony... xo
marshaee
marshaee
I too left a emotional abusive relationship , it took me awhile to leave. And I still wonder if I made the right decision, they have such mind control and he just sucked the life and joy out of me. I pray daily that God will restore my peace and joy they he took away. I know each day is step to a brighter one, so I just take one day at at time.
koolman
koolman
No, you should not feel guilty for being you. As far as attracting assholes, we can't avoid it. Assholes are everywhere. I try very hard not to become one, but there's always at least one every day who wants to mess with me.
rising-star
rising-star
Who is "he?"

If it's your partner, then you should take charge and responsibility of your life and make some tough decisions.

You will not get to know the woman in the mirror until you remove yourself from the situation and start rebuilding your self worth and your life. But you can get there.
Aronia
Aronia
"Feeling guilty about being me" is kind of a loaded question...
If your behaviour is self destructive or destructive to others, then no, it is not Okay " to be me".
If you are asking if it is okay to be alone and be comfortable in your own skin , unattached ? Then yes it is okay and it is good and I hope you heal.
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