I feel like pulling way back. I feel upset. I thought we had something special going. I feel like things are no longer good between us. Something has been damaged. Am I overreacting?

I think you are probably getting it. It looks to me like she is not being honest with you. It looks like she wants to back up but is afraid to say so. You are getting mixed messages and of course it is confusing. It also sounds like you kinda rushed things a bit and came on too fast and strong, cuz relationships take a while to build and maybe she felt a little smothered. So, she is telling you, not really that you talk too much, but that she is not ready for that level of close relationship. If I were you I would let go.

Thanks for your reply. Something does not make sense. I don't think I have come on too strong. What has happened is that I was not very interested in her for a long time. She was the one who pursued me and very aggressivle. My interest in her is relatively recent. Before she would force our weekend meetings by showing up at my place because I wouldn't ask her out. She still does not wait for me to ask her out. Last Wed and Thurs she called me to tell me she was coming to see me. But then during this weekend she has declined to see me. Until five days ago she would text me very loving things before going to bed. I never did that. I just replied to her texts. In fact, she complained about this. She even asked me if we were a couple and I said maybe not yet but we were on the right track. I told her I thought things were going really well and that i really liked her a lot. I said this because I thought that relationships take a while to build and I felt a little rushed. So I don't think I have come on too strong. What has happened is that I have changed recently. I have developed strong feelings for her after a long and aggressive pursuit by her. Now I give her a lot more attention than before.
One more thing about what happened tonight. It is not just what she said but the way she said it. She was not very loving or caring. When I told her I was confused about what she meant she wrote: "Just that. You talk to meee tooo muchhh!" I am typing exactly what she texted me. To me that does not show love and care. And I want my partner to treat me well, with love and care.

Saying she misses me and not wanting to talk on the phone makes no sense to me.

How long do you usually talk on the phone and how many times a day do you call her?

She called me today and started complaining that I did not know how to solve problems because I called a handyman to fix my front door and one of my windows. She said those are things I could have done myself. I told her that I had my own way of doing things, different from hers. But she insisted. She said I drowned in a glass of water. I reminded her that I had lived in four different countries and have done more in my life that she had done with hers. She said that she was not referring to that, just that I could not resolve simple problems. Then she hung up on me and texted me that I what I had said was a low blow. I know I should not have said what I said, but after telling me last night that I talk too much and now telling me that I am unable to solve simple problems I got upset. I don't know why all of the sudden she is complaining so much about me. We had a nice thing going. And now I don't know what to do. I feel very sad. I felt i had finally found someone. But I feel she is acting too weird. It started this week when she stopped sending me the loving texts she sends me every night. It has been downhill since then. I don't know why she is acting so different all of the sudden. But telling me I talk too much is now clear to me that is part of a general complaint about me. She is giving me the impression that there is something wrong with her. Why am I suddenly so imperfect?

She is not treating you well. Who does that?? Telling you how you should manage your household chores? Wtf?
I m sorry for the disappointment . There is nothing wrong with you, she is just looking for a reason to break of the relationship.
Do her a favor and end it before she does more damage to you.

It sounds like she is very immature. I agree that the way she is approaching / handling things is very disrespectful to you. My instinct is that she perused you because she had a thing for you... crush, and had built you up in her head, looking at you and your allure through rose coloured glasses etc. then she got to know you and she was disappointed because she had built you up differently in her head and is now unimpressed by the reality. Again I'm not saying what she is doing or how she is so judgmental is valid, I'm just saying it sounds like that's her problem.

Back off and let her know you're no longer into it. If she's interested in the real you, she'll try to broach the subject and fix things right, by not trying to make you feel inferior or make stupid comments about you not being handy. That comment in itself shows me that she had built you up differently and has issues with daydreaming as opposed to giving real life and real people a chance.

You deserve better.

She should've ended things with you, and told you she's not that into you. She's setting the stage to make things difficult so it will justify her breaking up with you in the end or vice versa. I know. I, unfortunately, have done this in my past.

Also, it's a red flag that when things get difficult, you both resorted to low blows about one another. If you stay together, that should be addressed.

I would back off, stop communicating with her and see if she tries and contacts you. The more you smother, the more turned off she is getting.

I think trust your gut, if you weren't interested in her for a long time there is probably a reason for it. Why force something that wasn't meant to be? It's so much easier for me to write this and advise you than for me to take my own advice but maybe try taking a step back from it all...

I want to know if I messed up. She is making me feel that I am the one who messed this up by telling her that I had accomplished more in life than she has, when she went on and on about how I cannot solve small problems. I texted her an apology this morning. It's 7 pm here and I have not gotten a response. And it's my birthday!! We were supposed to go out. Saying what I said was not a good idea, especially since I am an Ivy league educated professor and she is a public school teacher. That was a lousy thing for me to say to her. But I felt she was telling me I was a useless man unable to handle small problems. If this ends the relationship is it my fault? Is what I did enough of a big deal to break off what was a very nice relationship up until now? It looks like she is making it a deal breaker.

When someone calls and I don't answer it's usually because I don't want to talk to them..I think she is not being fair to you

Welcome to the wonderful world of trying to understand ppl particularly the opposite sex and particularly getting to know someone new in the dating world. You've been at it long enough now (5 months )for a few harsh realities to creep in. Realities as to compatability and what values we deem most important in significan't others. And testing our own communication skills.
Ask her to rephrase or reiterate her comment " You talk to much." It could mean three different things to me. 1. you are too verbose and dominate the convo, 2. reveal too much personal info.,3. or bug her too much.
Her comment about small tasks...top on her priority list may be for a man that possess the ability to fix things. Just like a guy may want a woman that can cook. Or she sees your solution to the problem as being lazy or too spendy. Either of which, she didn't like it. ASK HER TO CLEARIFY.
Who knows if she's really sick , bz or truly offended and put off by your comparison comment. There is a reason for lack of communication which is a red flag all together. Someone needs to man up, ask questions and explain. Patience my friend. The intent and quality of this relationship is going to be based on the ability of both parties to get and remain on the same page.