I have been abused and when I got in a long term relationship I did have issues about relations I would shower a lot but I did get help for this and now I do have better time with someone now.

I was molested by my father, (adopted me, only father I had) and by my uncle. Exactly, what are you asking?

"sharing your experiences with trust issues, intimacy etc..?"

Thats pretty small parameters for a really big subject. Are you in a relationship with someone who was abused? I could help give you some positive ways to be supportive. I was in counseling for many years and in a support group. I have dealt with my issues and don't mind talking about it.

I was sexually abused. I'm looking to see how other people handled things and or worked through them.

Does your SO know? Have you talked about this with others before?

I don't have a SO right now.

Have you talked about this with others before? It's kind of important. The first time you say it out loud, or share it, it can bring up allot of emotion. All of a sudden, it cannot be denied. Someone who is just starting out in the process of healing should start slow. Where are you at in the process? I don't want to overwhelm you.

Im interested in this too.
briefly:
I was raped when I was 7 by an old man in a hotel while my family was on holiday with my parents. I was later raped at 17 and had to terminate a pregnancy from that. I am sure if I had dealt with the first abuse the second may not have happened.

I am working through it and on the waiting list for a new therapist.

This has lead to me being co-Dependent and have issues of huge low-self esteem and feeling of I am only useful for sex. Fear of abandonment...I also have PTSD and Acute Anxiety Disorderthats a lot of labels but thats where I am at.

It has affected my whole life with the choices I have made, not usually the best ones for me, but always the best ones for them!

If I can help you I am happy to share. I am 46 so have been through a lot.

I am currently married and both me and my wife have been sexually abused. We are both getting help for it, and IF something happens while we are being intimate that triggers something we will tell the other person so that it does not get out of control (PTSD wise). I believe that if someone within the relationship has been sexually abused, it's so important to be open and honest with your partner about it because they can then be supportive to you and possibly help you in more ways that you might have had before hand. We have not had any trust issues surrounding sexual abuse.

I was sexually abused by 2 relatives as a little girl and it absolutely impacted how I was with men and it definitely impacted my romantic relationships with them as well. Until I fully faced all that had happened, all that it did to me...I stayed cyclical and repeated the destructive behaviors I had in my relationships.

It took a ton of therapy over a long time to get to what I would called relatively okay with men and could be healthier in relationships too. I have more issues now with random men due to triggers and whatnot, than I have with someone I am actually with. I can be healthy with a man in a relationship now.

Traditional therapy only scratched the surface for me and that's the route I went for a long time until I tried EMDR therapy and it has been my saving grace. What happened to me will forever haunt me in its own way, but it doesn't own me like it used to and for the first time in my life I can honestly say that.

I hope you are able to find your own way, your own path to deal with what happened to you. For if you don't, it will surely creep into all of your relationships in its own way.

I think we all handle this in our own way and there is no right or wrong it is what works for us to be in a relationship. God Bless Katie