I'm not qualified to answer that question so take my response with a grain of salt. Are you happy, do you feel healthy? Do you want more from the relationship or is sex twice a week fine with you? Ask yourself.

My initial thoughts. Keep in mind I'm 28 and new at a lot of this. You're not divorced, you both still have feelings from the sounds of it. It sounds like a confusing situation and maybe she is just that, confused about what she wants. Maybe your both just figuring it out. Maybe she just needed some space. Other than sex, how is the relationship? I'd take it as a good sign she is still sexual and only wants to be sexual with you. I'd be patient and see how things play out, assuming first of all you are happy and ok with everything. Take care of yourself first, your #1.

When stbxh and I decided to split up, we still had sex at times with the understanding that as soon as he or I got involved with anyone else, sex between us would stop. I got involved with my partner about a year later so stbxh and I stopped having sex. Stbxh and I actually still live together as friends/roommates only until we get everything settled and I can move to be with my partner, he and I are in a LDR.

Your wife saying she doesn't want sex from anyone else I would see as her not ready to let go of you and move on with her life. How would she feel if you found someone else?

With stbxh and I, we were both ready to move on but we felt until he or I found someone, we're both high libido, we both wanted our sexual needs satisfied and it was safe having sex with each other. It was just a FWB thing between us. Besides stbxh and I having close friends feelings for each other, there's no romantic emotional bond between us so ending our sexapades when I met partner was not an issue for him or for me.

Whether it's healthy or not IMO depends on what the sex is seen as. Is it *just sex* to get both your sexual needs fulfilled or is it because she's trying to hang on to you, to the marriage?

I think I'm afraid to ask those questions cause i think I'm afraid of the answers she and i are all we've known sexually and emotionally for the last twenty years sometimes i want to let go but I'm afraid of what's out there. I don't know.

Do you have serious hopes or intentions to reconcile? Were there some irreconcilble differences like infedelity or abuse?

I think you need to decide whether you hope to get back together or not. If you don't plan on getting back together, I think it would be much better to cut those ties and move on with your lives.

I wasted too much time with my ex, and looking back, I can see that I would have made my own life so much easier and better if I had made the decision to move on. Eventually I left that final decision up to him. You need to figure out what is going to work for you and your family if there are children involved.

I agree with Fay. If you aren't planning on getting back together, I would cut ties. It's not healthy in that one may still want to keep the other around and it prevents you both from truly moving on in your lives. Perhaps you both stay out of fear and aren't really ready to move on?

Really great insights here. I don't have much more to contribute. Whether it is healthy or not is up to you to decide. Deep down inside if you aren't %100 happy with the situation as it stands than you have your answer. It may be holding you or her back from moving forward. Like several of the above posters said...you need to figure out if there will be reconciliation or if you both just need to find the courage to move on. You deserve to find out who else is out there for you if that is what you wish to do.

I done that w/ my ex. But had to stop cause of the feelings & the fact I was sure he was screwing the woman he left us for. But if your still having sex twice a week sounds like you both still have feelings. Sit down & talk about all of this. If she doesn't want sex w/ anyone but you sounds like she still wants you. But I could be wrong.

I don't see hooking up a couple times a week for sex when you are separated as being "healthy". IMO, it impedes your ability to separate yourself from the relationship and take an objective look at things. If your marriage was screwed up enough that you separated and are each living in your own place, then there is a reason for that. Not being able to emotionally separate yourself from the situation makes it difficult to see things from a big picture perspective and determine what is truly best for your happiness and future.

In my first marriage, she was done and wanted me out a couple years before the divorce papers were started. Sex stopped nearly a year before I moved out and the divorce became final I needed to have minimal contact with her after I moved out because I still had feelings for her and every time she wanted to discuss things with me, it became emotionally confusing for me. Separating myself from the situation was the only way I could step back and gather my thoughts and see things for how they really were. Perhaps you need to do the same thing.