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koolman 04/10/2014

Admitting that one doesn't really know anything sometimes is the birth and the embrace of freedom!

deleted_user 04/10/2014

Hmmm I don't know about that.....

deleted_user 04/10/2014

I think it's intelligent to say I don't know to something, rather than comment on something I know nothing or very little about, the people listening are going to know you're not being truthful anyway and will be thinking you're a right idiot, lol

Maika 04/10/2014

funny, I have been saying I don't know a lot but I certainly don't feel free!

JustASimpleGuy 04/10/2014

The problem with 'knowing', especially where it relates to people, is it's largely an illusion.

In that regard it sets the stage for comparing our mind's 'knowledge' of what Should or Shouldn't Be against what Is. Illusion vs. reality.

If you give it some thought, that's at the core of a huge amount of emotional pain and suffering.

So koolman's on the mark. Not knowing is liberating.

oOoREBoOo 04/10/2014

That is so me! I feel like I should know every answer asked and have been known to just give my opinion or wing it! My sister caught on and calls me out. Now, I just reply with a very liberating "I don't know". Yes, I feel so FREE! :~)

Bubbabiker 04/10/2014

Yes, it's best to say 'I don't know' than to lay on some BS and being called out on it.

deleted_user 04/10/2014

Is that the same as ignorance is bliss?

JustASimpleGuy 04/10/2014

There are things you can and should know.

There are things you really can't know.

One of the things you can and should know is there are things you can't know and will never know. Let them go.

deleted_user 04/10/2014

This reminds me of George Bush...
There are the unknowns, the things we know we don't know and then there are the unknown unknowns, the things we don't know we don't know.

JustASimpleGuy 04/10/2014

A man's got to know his limitations.

koolman 04/11/2014

Interesting plethora of responses! Thanks.

"I don't know. I like that. That's nice. Mr. Hand, will I pass this class? Gee, Mr. Spiccoli, I don't know!"

deleted_user 04/11/2014

If I don't know it I google it! Doesn't always work but many times I learn something new.

JustASimpleGuy 04/11/2014

Or maybe you just learn someone else's opinion on a given topic?

There's very little we actually need to know, but again one of the most important things to know is how much we really don't know, just accept it and not drive ourselves crazy with questions for which there are no objective answers.

JustASimpleGuy 04/11/2014

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/non-dual-thinking-there-are-things-we-dont-know/

deleted_user 04/11/2014

If I don't know, I just say, "I don't know."

I don't overthink it, overanalyze it, wonder if my perception of it is real or not...

sometimes, it really IS that simple.

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