4 months out of a marriage...I would have to think that he simply isn't moved on in his heart. In his mind, he knows the marriage is over..may even be using this relationship with you as a spring board to help him out of the divorce...but, ultimately, in his heart, he isn't ready. It has nothing to do with you, persay...he may be completely into you, but without having the time to sort things out in his mind and in his heart..this is going to happen.

I did this once..I was at a bf's house for fathers day..his dad was coming in and had some things to carry..I told my son, "Go help Johns dad carry in his things" too bad I was at DALE'S house!!!

I too felt horrific! But, I simply wasn't over the previous relationship. I had not given myself time to heal my heart.

We all want to be able to move on and find someone special to be with, unfortunately when we don't allow ourselves the space and time to heal, this is one of the things that happen.

I'm sorry this is happening. Just slow things down.....and don't be too upset with him..I'm sure he was even more mortified and embarrassed then you may think...

hope my 2 cents helps..cuz now I'm broke! LOL

My husband called me by his ex-wife's name one time...when we first got together.

I didn't let it hurt me too much, I simply took it as, for the past 10 years, that is the name he has always said, and just slipped back into routine.

I think it was so hard because you and him were intimate at the time and that would kill any woman, I was out of a 15 yr. marriage and I slipped more than once calling my B/f by my ex's name and their name is kinda alike. We were married 15 yr.s one daughter and together for 20 yrs. so that name kinda sticks around with ya, it will vanish, I hope you told him how this hurt you because I know it would hurt me, Let him do the explaining and let you know and show you how much he loves U! Move on from the pain or it will haunt you, If this keeps happening then U may have a problem, I wish U the best of luck, AMY

Let me tell you a secret-I am horrible with names-my kids make fun of me because I am always calling them the wrong name. My sister, recently sliped and called her new husband by her X's name-and now I'm doing it. I even slipped up and called a bf the wrong name. It isn't that the relationship is in trouble. It is simply that I have habits-and sometimes I slip into habit stage. And maybe, that's all it is. I wouldn't freak out to much about it. Unless there are other problematic signs.

1) Good grief, y'all. It's a slip of the tongue! He was with someone for a long time and he's used to saying that name. Remember, it's only been a few months AND he still sees that woman, assuming he has kids. It doesn't mean he loves you any less b/c he called you the wrong name. If you wanna get hurt over something, find a real reason. This is not it! It's a mistake. Let it go.

2) That's why I call people "Hon" or "Darlin'" or Sweetie or something like that! My daughters are Michelle and Melissa and I'm constantly calling them each other's names.

I can understand why you would be upset about that- I would probably have my feelings hurt as well.

He probably didn't mean anything by it. He said her name for the past 10+ years, so it was something out of habit- not meant to insult you or to mean that he is thinking of her while with you.

Give him a break and hopefully he learned from this mistake and won't be making it in the future.

Awww, honey, come on now.... he was with the same woman for 10 years. Give the guy a break, it was an accident. Don't be so hard on him.

I would try to just let it go. He had been with her a long time until just a few months ago and old habits die hard. I don't think he did it to hurt you and I don't think it means he doesn't care or thinks your aren't special. I would try to be understanding about it. I'm sure he feels bad about it. Sometimes you have to pick your battles and this just doesn't seem like something you want to waste time getting worked up over.

is funny everyone but the first reply said ws just a slip of the tounge and to get throug it, guess i focusing on number 1 so much as it seems that what i think, bt may indeed be not true. so should foret it for now, and if it happened again i would need to walk maybe?

I do think a lot of people put too much emphasis on things like this. Some times, it is just out of habit that someone slips and says their ex's name. I have made the mistake of calling my ex, the name of the girl I was last seriosuly dating. not cus I had any feelings for this girl cus I didnt, but it was cus I was so used to just saying that other persons name for so long, it was by habit.

I would take ti slow regardless and work with it. It doesnt mean much sometimes when this happens.