Healthy Relationships Support Group
No relationship is perfect. A long-term relationship requires constant effort to understand each other, fix misunderstandings, solve problems and continue to grow as both individuals change and evolve. How we deal with our misunderstandings is the focus of this community. Join us to find support, get advice, and share your experience with your relationship.
According to my current research source I have valid reason for being unromantic. As a child my parents failed to expose me to it. My mother quite literally hated my father, and disliked it intently even when he attempted to or laid a hand on her.
I lived with my grand parents for a while, and they never exposed me to it either. My grand mother suffered my grand father, and all because he was a selfish alcoholic.
The saddest thing about being unromantic for me is I failed dismally to show affection towards my children, so did their mother for that matter (she always criticized me for failing to show her affection, but was unaffectionate towards me), I was therefore unable to break the cycle.
I lived with my grand parents for a while, and they never exposed me to it either. My grand mother suffered my grand father, and all because he was a selfish alcoholic.
The saddest thing about being unromantic for me is I failed dismally to show affection towards my children, so did their mother for that matter (she always criticized me for failing to show her affection, but was unaffectionate towards me), I was therefore unable to break the cycle.
Sometimes we all just need a hug..
Idk if I am a romantic.. I bring my SO coffee in bed to wake him up, a cook nice dinners for him, i rarely complain when he makes a mess or forgets to do something I ask but he is definitely responding to all the things I do or not do with quite a bit of going-all-out.
We are definitely affectionate towards each other.
He was basically raised by his mother and i was raised in a culture where courting women properly is greatly encouraged and advertized and women are suppose to behave in a way that they deserve this kind of approach.
I think you're wrong.
Because a thing is hard ..doesn't mean it shouldn't be done.
You're kinda letting yourself off the hook where your children are concerned with that " I accept I blew it, such is life, and so be it".
Anyway.. yes.. at heart ..I'm a romantic.
Hugs
jc
Or you wouldn't have mentioned your.. deficit..
Of affection.
I'm fifty something. My Dad and I have a strained relationship.
It means the world to me when he calls for no real reason..
And even manages to put an " I love you" into the conversation.
..It doesn't come naturally to him, either
( or myself.. where he is concerned)
That makes it SO worth the effort.
Time is passing.
Hugs
jc
Haha..
I'd keep doing it until it wasn't uncomfortable any more :-) :-) :-)
Affection is ...NICE
Hugs
Even though I was starved for affection at home, I did become a very romantic and somewhat touchy-feely person myself. I value an affectionate nature in others. TENDERNESS is the word.