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ScarletAngel 07/26/2012

RISK more than others thinks is safe... CARE more than others think is wise... DREAM more than others think is practical... EXPECT more than others think is possible.

What do you think? Is this a good motto to live by? I think it is, but I'm a "Dance like nobody's watching" type of girl. I also believe "that which doesn't kill me only makes me stronger".

I learned when I was dating my current husband that I had to risk great hurt in order to find great love. I know many would find that fool-hardy because of previous experience, but I believe we are to learn from past bad experiences.

I think the problem many face is not in risking too much, but in learning too little.

deleted_user 07/26/2012

for me the problem needing to be solved
was to take care of my naivete
so that my choices are trustworthy
not dangerous

then, bust the dams wide open !!

koolman 07/27/2012

I say try that motto once. If it doesn't work, REASSESS, REGROUP and TRY SOMETHING DIFFERENT. The very definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and EXPECTING a different result.

deleted_user 07/28/2012

actually, heh, its just a saying

its not really the definition of insanity
probably more a definition of addiction

or malignant hope

i get anxious when anyone throws safety and wisdom out the window, it doesnt usually end well, especially if you have a history of not-end-well's

koolman 07/28/2012

Is addiction not insane? "I feel this way; therefore i need that" (which destroys me). But, yeah, I know what you're saying, JoyRide.

koolman 07/28/2012

I prefer to make CALCULATED risks, risks that, after weighing all the odds and doing research, are worth the risk. I don't like to leap in bed with someone based on sudden impulse like an idiot. I like to ease in, get to know 'em awhile. Probably why I don't get much action in that department lol.

deleted_user 07/28/2012

calculated risks - that sounds perfectly sane

:)

deleted_user 07/29/2012

I think those are great words to like by if you can. Problem is I think a lot of people today find it harder to do all those things. I say take everything in moderation because sometimes too much of a good thing can tend to backfire. Now don't misunderstand I think everyone should have dreams and goals and do all they can to make them come true it is just I also believe that you have to deal with all the bad as well and sometimes take an alternative route. To me that means learning as you go because sometimes what you think you truly want isn't always is grand as you thought it would be.

So I say take risks yes but in moderation. CARE you bet but don't focus so much on caring that you forget everything else. Dream all you can but don't focus so much on dreams you forget to live life. Expect more then others well yes in certain circumstances and moderation as I feel you can also defeat your own purpose of getting something by exhausting yourself. Just my thoughts:)

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