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I feel like my relationship is falling apart and I don't know what to do to save it. Before anyone asks, YES! I do want to save it.
Me & my Fiance have had our share of problems in the past and we have always got through these with no real complications. We always came out stronger, and more determined to put these problems behind us. UNTIL recently, I lost our baby, since then our relationship hasn't been great. He has been AMAZING!! It's me. I haven't been able to grieve the loss of our baby for a number of reasons, if you view my Journal, you'll see all about this. I don't want to be close to my partner anymore, I make him sleep on the sofa, he's now been sleeping on the sofa since January. We don't kiss, cuddle and very rarely do we "do the deed" - I just want to be able to feel close to him again and be the way we used to be. I mean we used to be so stupid together, but it was fun, it was us, now we don't do that, it's like we are leading separate lives. Any advice would be great.
Me & my Fiance have had our share of problems in the past and we have always got through these with no real complications. We always came out stronger, and more determined to put these problems behind us. UNTIL recently, I lost our baby, since then our relationship hasn't been great. He has been AMAZING!! It's me. I haven't been able to grieve the loss of our baby for a number of reasons, if you view my Journal, you'll see all about this. I don't want to be close to my partner anymore, I make him sleep on the sofa, he's now been sleeping on the sofa since January. We don't kiss, cuddle and very rarely do we "do the deed" - I just want to be able to feel close to him again and be the way we used to be. I mean we used to be so stupid together, but it was fun, it was us, now we don't do that, it's like we are leading separate lives. Any advice would be great.
It happened to me with my exH as well and things didn't improve until I got pregnant gain.
Before everything goes to the point of no return, you probably should get to counseling ASAP.. These are the kinds of things that make or break the relationship.
You may also want to connect with real-life women who experienced the same kind of loss and coped with it well so they can show you how to get through this.
When it comes to mourning, there is a theory that ineffective mourning makes you linger on in the state of pain, so this is another issue that needs to be addressed.
Something has to symbolize the " let go" moment, a ritual of sorts.
Maybe planting a tree with the baby's name on it or a flower bed. Whatever you think will help.
I am sorry that this happened to you... Hug