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"Love" Triangle? More like freakin &quot

rainBowsLoveMe
rainBowsLoveMe
I've never asked for any drama in my life. Ever. lol Never really been in any drama in my life. Now i've kinda been put into a "love" square and i'm kinda like "what the fuck." Never gotten this much attention. I know, probably sound like attention starved twat, but I haven't really. lol It's such a complicated situation. First I started dating this guy that I kinda liked and he liked me and I wanted to start a relationship with right? Well now his friend is all hitting on me and telling me that he likes me... And then I just started talking to my ex again trying to be friends with him after not talking to him for 5months straight and now hes telling me that he still loves me. :/ It just seems like I either A: Don't talk to all guys for the rest of my life or B: Just don't talk to any of them ever again. lol I don't know how to handle all of this. It's way to over stimulating. @@ It's making my head spin. :@
koolman
koolman
You must be really hot at the present time! Hitting your peak of phermones or something. Take it as a compliment. You're in the enviable position of being selective. Choose wisely.
deleted_user
deleted_user
As for the ex, well he's an ex for a reason. If whatever problems caused the break-up weren't resolved, those problems will still be there.

The other two guys, you don't have to be exclusive with any one guy. Date different guys until you decide what guy you'd be happier being with.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think it's only a love triangle if you are actually engaged in some kind of relationship, physical or otherwise. Guys telling you they have feelings for you doesn't count :D

I think what you have there is a 'when it rains, it pours" ego stroking.

Enjoy.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Good for you! I remember those days... lol

Just be honest and kind with the poor smitten creatures.

I have to say that if the first guy's friend is hitting on you.. he doesn't sound like a very loyal friend. Where I come from if a guy hits on his friends girls he is a Rat!.. so use caution there.

After that I would say... let them work their butts off to win the honor of dating you!
rainBowsLoveMe
rainBowsLoveMe
It's just like so complicated mostly with the guy i'm seeing and his friend who's also MY friend. Cause the guy i've been seeing for 2weeks now, he's really shy, doesn't really talk much, on the phone, text or in person and isn't really out going and he won't talk to me about his problems i.e. opening up even a little bit. While on the other hand the friend we share we play 20 Qs or whatever, talk about random shit, sorry, comment on our stats., we've even shared one or two personal things about our lives, well me, i don't know if he'd considered what he's told me to be personal. But it's like I have a better connection with him that i do with the guy i'm seeing. I don't know if i'm asking for too much, if i'm being too strong headed or something? lol
deleted_user
deleted_user
Two weeks isn't very long ... just be honest with him and tell him you aren't feeling a connection. Then see what happens with the other guy.
koolman
koolman
Sounds more like a DRAMA triangle (or square) to me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Be careful everyone has feelings, make it clear if things are just casual, these guys are friends with each other? Hmm well I dunno but I have always been the kind of person who thought it was wrong to go after someone a friend was interested in, maybe because my ex bf slept with every guy I liked?
Nothing wrong with getting to know more than one person- see where your feelings go- like I said just be careful of their hearts and yours.
deleted_user
deleted_user
make them fill out a survey LOL

No seriously round down which one is more realistic for you
bigguy3
bigguy3
Your 17 ... you don't need to be in a serious relationship with anyone. Date these guys. Experience what they have to offer. Figure out what qualities in men you find attractive and what things you don't. Just relax and enjoy yourself.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Honestly, what is with all these people saying "just enjoy it"? You're talking about letting some people down and toying with their emotions. To "just enjoy it" is cruel.
deleted_user
deleted_user
At her age she should be viewing dating as going out to a movie, going on an outing... in other words she should be "enjoying it"

She should not be having sexual relationships with these boys. Outside of kissing.

Only when you take a relationship to that level is there a need to make a firm decision on who you will be with.

She should be honest with everyone... She owes none of these boys anything at all. She needs to make her own decisions for her own reasons.
koolman
koolman
Wow, an "ex" at 17...you're an ambitious kid!

Didn't realize we were talking with a minor. No further comment!
rainBowsLoveMe
rainBowsLoveMe
Yeah im only 17 but I asked for advice cause I dont want to end up hurting anybody in the wrong way for the wrong reason. I wanted to make sure I knew what I was doing and got other peoples opinions on the matter since I dont exactly have the most experience in the matter. And I ended up breaking up with the guy I was seeing; im trying to be friends with him and I still talk to our mutual friend that likes me and I like back, but that situation is complicated because I don't want to date him right away cause I don't like "jumping" from one relationship to another. So yeah. lol Maybe I make it a little more complicated than I should for a 17 yr. old.