I guess I don't find it out of the ordinary that a person's partner would ask these questions. Sometimes I think people are curious about where there relationship is headed or they just simply want to be reassured their partner wants the same things for the future. You know your b/f and the history you both share better then anyone so I think the best way to find your answers is to be honest and simply ask your b/f in a gentle way what brought on all these questions.

Otherwise you will just be left with assuming what it might mean no matter how many suggestions or responses you receive from myself or anyone else. Anyway I really think the best way to find out what your bf wants and means you need to just ask him.::):)

im in a similar situation with my ex gf as well. all i can say i be honest but if he already didn't treat you right then don't give him another chance to do it but if he didn't you could always try again

What would I think?
I would think that what you do NOW is NONE OF HIS BUSINESS.
I also wonder -- if he is your X -- WHY ARE YOU EVEN DISCUSSING THIS STUFF WITH HIM?

cowgirlK, I was thinking the SAME thing.

What does it matter if you are dating, thinking of dating, not dating??? You are under no obligation to answer any questions regarding your personal life. I find that extremely out of line.

If an X were asking questions like that of me, they would be getting my voice mail next time they called.

instead of guessing, why not ask? Flat out ask what is his reason or purpose from asking such questions? We can guess and analyze as much as humanly possible, but only he really knows why he's asking these questions. If I were you, I would just ask.

Hawklover:well i tried that already -..-; he kind of just avoided the real reason i think for wanting to know :/ lol the one about the whole memories thing he told me as i had said above he said "he wanted to make sure that i didnt just use him" lol which i dont think personally is the reason why he wanted to know in the first place. i think he just wanted to see whether i had forgotten about him already or not even thow its been a yr. since we've broken up. that may just be wishful thinking on my part thow.

Cowgirl&&Kid: he's my ex yes but he's also my best friend. i really don't think he's asking me to be nosy. get my drift? i think he may be asking me because he might want to get back together? thats what im asking advice on. im kind of confused. i dont know if he just wants to know cause he wants to see if i still remember or if he wants to see if i still care because he still cares. you know? but like i said. i may be seeing it as more than it is.

and we all know how great it works out having an X for a best freind...sure...

if thats how you see it then thats how you see it. we've always gotten along. we've never gotten into a single fight ever. -..- im only simple asking for advice on my dillema.

rainbows, I just realized you are but 16 years old. I am well old enough to be your mother -- Heck, I have a grandson OLDER than you! When you are much older, you will probably better understand why he is asking you these questions and why kidsintow sounds a bit cynical on the "hanging out with your ex as a best friend" thing.

Both you and this ex-boyfriend are extremely young. You have lots to learn about yourselves and relationships. But I will tell you one thing that I KNOW to be TRUE: If you think he's interested in getting back together with you romantically, YOU WILL NEED TO ASK HIM. Unfortunately, most men still don't know how to speak from their hearts -- it takes a lot of hard work and practice! And as for you dear heart NEVER ASSUME! It's way too easy to get swept up into what we "want to hear" and what is really being said.
Ask yourself, too, why did you two break up in the first place? Revisit that for awhile before sticking your neck out there for what could be more hurt and heartbreak.

CowgirlKathi: It's not so much as understanding why. It's just as you said. Because I am so young and I still have alot to learn about relationships and such, we can't always see the alterior motives to a persons actions. And I have learned that one thing about men. They do not always speak whats on their minds or how they feel. You do have to poke, prod and ask them sometimes. lol Thank you for what you said. It was a great deal of help and I REALLY REALLY appreciate it.

rainBowsL:
thanks for the acknowledgement! it's always good to know when my words aren't falling on deaf ears.
And just one more word of wisdom: You can't read anyone's mind. You should never be expected to -- and no one can read yours, either. Communication is the Key!