Healthy Relationships Support Group

No relationship is perfect. A long-term relationship requires constant effort to understand each other, fix misunderstandings, solve problems and continue to grow as both individuals change and evolve. How we deal with our misunderstandings is the focus of this community. Join us to find support, get advice, and share your experience with your relationship.

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koolman 07/15/2008

From the posts I've been reading here, this is what a relationship is all about.

When are people going to realize that you can't control another human being, only yourselves? Gotta be willing to let go of what you love. Believe me, that's a tough concept that I too am having a hard time trying to get used to.

deleted_user 07/15/2008

Your right you cant own someone but their controlling people out there.

JJ660 07/15/2008

You are very right.
It's strange how some people want to change their partner into something they are not.

koolman 07/15/2008

So what's the answer, ladies? "Free Love" (sex) with no attachment whatsoever?

Disease concerns aside, I think there's no such thing, except in the '60s, in an LSD-induced trance, when people would fall into a drug coma and wake up with a love child LOL.

koolman 07/15/2008

The truth is, we're all owned by God and the Holy Spirit...or Satan. And even those two beings grapple for possession of my soul LOL...

The former bring with them warmth but a lot of hard work...the latter a seemingly easy way out but an emptiness...ya all ever feel that way?

deleted_user 07/15/2008

I just think that relationships should give equally or at least try to to each other. And with communication it should be doable. But alas sometimes it does not work out

koolman 07/15/2008

Thanks, kinah. I gave my former GF a pretty long leash, respecting her time and her privacy (she worked SOOO much), and, if anything, she got possessive of me, because she knew I make my living filming weddings, where there are beautiful ladies all the time. I had to assure her that I was not interested in any of those ladies, because they are loud, obnoxious and drunk, and she's sexy in a quiet way, which I like LOL! So that kind of broke down her barriers and she began to trust me. I trusted her too, but began to feel she was simply losing interest, because I was demanding more of her meager time than she could give. So (sigh) it fizzled out. But, under different circumstances (if she had her own place and worked a little less than 6 11-hr. days a week), we would've worked out pretty well. The passion would have been lukewarm, but I'll take that to a hot-blooded woman who I have to wonder who else she's pursuing when I'm not around...!

Is a certain amount of possession perfectly normal and healthy, as long as it doesn't get ridiculous? I heard about a guy who wouldn't even let his GF go to the bathroom without him there (afraid of her texting someone to "get me outta here!"). That's a bit loony.

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