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So what should it be like?!
Should it be my Husband guilt tripping me for not wanting to be away when my children start their new school, or for my 15 year old sons birthday?!
Should it be him giving me the silent treatment because I say I need to be there for them at this time?
Should it be him saying he is going alone with his 17 year old son if I don't want to go?!
He has been horrible about it, I told him I didn't appreciate his attitude towards me wanting to be a good Mother to my children when they need me ( which for someone with Co-D took a lot!!!) and can we please look at other times and dates?!
It shouldn't be like that should it?!
I feel a line has been crossed here. I shouldn't have to ask for time to be there for my children should I?
His argument is that my son , who is 15, doesn't visit anyway. ( thats because he hates him! As he has humiliated my son on more than one occasion) and I should just call him on the day.
I also promised my younger daughter that I would take her to the dentist ( she's really scared ) which would be while we were away.
Also my 18 year old is off to Uni in a few weeks and I wanted to spend that time with her.
Is that unreasonable. ?!
He is being really bullying about it, making me feel like I am letting him down, he says he is disappointed in me for not wanting to have a holiday with him.
Should it be my Husband guilt tripping me for not wanting to be away when my children start their new school, or for my 15 year old sons birthday?!
Should it be him giving me the silent treatment because I say I need to be there for them at this time?
Should it be him saying he is going alone with his 17 year old son if I don't want to go?!
He has been horrible about it, I told him I didn't appreciate his attitude towards me wanting to be a good Mother to my children when they need me ( which for someone with Co-D took a lot!!!) and can we please look at other times and dates?!
It shouldn't be like that should it?!
I feel a line has been crossed here. I shouldn't have to ask for time to be there for my children should I?
His argument is that my son , who is 15, doesn't visit anyway. ( thats because he hates him! As he has humiliated my son on more than one occasion) and I should just call him on the day.
I also promised my younger daughter that I would take her to the dentist ( she's really scared ) which would be while we were away.
Also my 18 year old is off to Uni in a few weeks and I wanted to spend that time with her.
Is that unreasonable. ?!
He is being really bullying about it, making me feel like I am letting him down, he says he is disappointed in me for not wanting to have a holiday with him.
I am so sorry he is treating you this way.
I would just let him go away with his son and have a stress free school start with the kids.
I'd say let him go with his son with your big smile chipper blessings because a week with him away while you stay home sounds like it will BE a vacation for you!
Maybe everyone will return refreshed and positive.
It turned out His son doesn't want to go!
Although he didn't ask him until later - he did say to me ok then I will go on my ownI said ok then, thats fine, its probably best, you go on your own. but it turned out he was only saying his son would go to try and get me to go.!
I would be fine with that.
I did say to him that I didn't appreciate his attitude to my children and if I had made them a promise I would keep it. One of the reasons they hate him is because he keeps preventing me from doing things with and for them. So this time I have put my foot down. I told him to grow up and start being a better human beingand stop guilt-tripping me about me wanting and needing to be a good parent.
The result was the silent treatment and nasty snider comments.
No surprise there.
Are you able to leave him?
The thing I find really difficult with him is his inconsistencyhe just had a big row with my daughter about her asking for a lift into town to go to a club, he said no, because you wouldn't take my son home the other day so I could have a drink at dinnerthen it all kicks off then few hours later after insisting for so long that he wouldn't give them a lift he then says yes he will. I said to him his going back on what he says makes him untrustworthy as no one believes a word he sayshe doesn't get it! How can anyone believe him when he doesn't do what he says, he has always been that wayhe says he is just a big softy
I remember your other stories about this guy.
I really wish you would leave him. I know I should not tell you what to do but damn......it sounds SO miserable!
Yes a week on your own would be heavenly!!