For me when I feel like I am my best physical shape I feel that mentally I feel better about myself and it seems to feel better and right to be with someone and someone that is feeling the same way. I feel this is when we are in better touch with ourselves.

I don't know, I know a lot of people that are in excellent physical shape, but are quite messy in the other areas, although I agree that taking care of yourself is vital, I don't think that means someone is gonna be mentally healthy.

In my opinion it is taken to extreme by some almost as running, in some cases literally, away from problems. Feeling cool for a moment... I can be wrong... If it's all about "who you are and what you like" how can you be into 10 sports and pick any adrenalin pumping activity you can? Very popular lately!

If sports are a part of your lifestyle it is important that your partner shares the same ideas , i think.
I could never keep up with someone who runs and hikes. I m lucky if i can go for a walk once a month.

Thanks, folks. I'm not as gung-ho about fitness as some, but I do appreciate a good work-out twice a week, capped off by bike-rides in between. It's an endorphin rush that uncovers reservoirs of strength that I didn't even know I had.

I don't expect someone to keep up with me, but, sheesh, such lethargic lounging around all the time being lazy, overeating, getting drunk...I can do it one day a week, to celebrate a hard week of work, but every day...it's depressing.

Misery loves company?

Physical fitness and healthy lifestyles tend to correlate to financial well-being where I am from. Being vegan, I'm an oddball here. I can't relate to the financially secure crowd either, so I probably have more in common with the average Joe.

I'm not attracted to unhealthy people, so I can see your frustration.

I always think if I lived somewhere like Florida it would be different.

Yeah, one would think in Florida, with all the sunshine and year-round warm weather, people would get out often and lead an active, healthy lifestyle, but no, people stay in and are hermits here too.

Mentally healthy is so much more attractive. Most of the people in my life are hard core active and tend to drive me crazy! They spend so much time talking about themselves and their next big adventure, that they forget to ask me how I'm doing! :D

But I do feel my best during my morning power walks, and enjoy the energy I have afterwards. . .which is then used to keep up with my 7.5 month nephew. I could only see myself in a relationship with a mentally healthy and average physically active man.