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rupreckt3551 01/14/2013

I'm curious what this group thinks about couples (married or not) and passwords? Sharing? Not sharing?

If do you share your passwords with your SO, do you feel that you trust your SO more, less, or about the same?

Full disclosure, I'll share when my spouse asks without hesitation but feel that if my spouse were to ever ask for the passwords to everything that that's a sign of a bigger problem.

onetoomany 01/14/2013

I don't have a problem with it. but I agree I probably would not want to be asked!

drbeaker 01/14/2013

Due to the nature of my work, I can't share passwords to many of my accounts. The same applies to my partner, for similar reasons.

Aside from that, I wouldn't have a problem sharing information but being / having to be asked would cause me more concern.

We are very open with each other and totally trust each other. There is nothing of any significance in our lives which isn't (or wouldn't be) shared, subject to the wider constraints that prevent some things being shared. Complicated but...

deleted_user 01/14/2013

He uses one password for everything and I have the password because he at times has me order something or do something online for him. I've never gone into his email or any other place he has a password for unless he's asked me to.

He doesn't have my passwords because he has no interest in having them. If he wanted them I would give them to him but I feel the same way, if he asked for them it would raise some concern as to why he wants them. If he wants them due to a trust issue, that would be a problem.

deleted_user 01/14/2013

I also would think there was a trust issue if my SO went out of her way to ask for my passwords, but I know all of hers and she knows all of mine. We don't go into each others emails or other things, there just isn't anything that we don't know about each other. I respect her right to privacy with regard to who she emails or facebooks because I trust her completely and I know she feels the same way.

Dave17 01/15/2013

I don't share my passwords with anybody. I legally cannot. I can't tell you why.

But even if I could, I never would. That is my personal information. I would also never want that information from a SO.

Not really a big deal, I just don't give it out.

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