It kind of sounds like you have already answered your question. You are the one who does all the calling and you stated she never calls. I guess in my mind I wouldn\'t exactly call that a true friend. Focus on the people that care about you because when times are tough they are the ones who will be there when you need them. Furthermore, if she ever decides to call you perhaps this time around you will be too busy with your true friends to return that call.

I am terrible at keeping in touch with even my close friends. I tend to also procrastinate. BUT I cherish my friendships and some sound quite like yours. If it bothers you... tell her. It doesn\'t take a true friend to call it takes a true friend to make time for you, even if you are the one calling. Just my take and like I said I am the non caller usually so I see the other side.

I wouldn\'t like that, but if she didn\'t want you at all in her life, she would of ingore your phone calls. If you value your friendship, just let her know that you would be thankful for her phone calls once in a while.

It took me a few years to build a friendships, to my surpise, people were intoducing me as their best friend. Nice pay back, isn\'t it?

I have been on both ends, "the non caller" & "the call initiator".
When I was the latter, and my "initiated" calls were always "cut short", I told my friend, how I felt. Turns out she was really busy, but did make the effort to spend a little more time, and our calls are more evened out. So, it was a good outcome - to just be honest.

How about , speaking of one sided, when you have that person who (OFTEN) when in conversation -- spends most of the time, talking about their situations, activities, thoughts, ect....... and when you have something you\'d like to talk about (whatever)........ they say something short & sweet ("oh, really) ......then they "HAVE" to go.
Do you say how you feel, then -- or is it, Obvious, - the person is selfish? or self - absorbed? or too busy for anyone else?

Thats funny, page, I have a gf, who talks on a phone for hours, telling me long conversations shes had with her bf: He said, then I said.)))))))))That is much more fun for her than my TV show crap.

sometimes in life we need the friendship with someone else more than they need it from us - and sometimes thats ok - and often its the normal dynamic of a lot of friendships in our life unless we are "besties".
she may be busier, more fulfilled in other things, have closer friendships in her life, than you may be or have in yours at this time of your life?

unless you fee that you two are the closest friends to EACHOTHER than you may just have to accept that you are the one needing her friendship at the moment and thats ok - i mean if she\'s a good friend when you call on her - whats the real problem other than you feeling not as wanted?

Feeling not as wanted is kind of a problem.

A very wise man once told me that if you want to have froiend you have to be willing to put up with their s**t! I would say just accept her the way she is and move on to better relationships. I know it\'s hard. But probably not much you can do about it.

I can completely relate to this. I have a friend that is the same way. Never calls. Never makes that extra effort. I dont think shes been to ONE of my kids bday parties..or cookouts or anything.. I finally just stopped inviting her.. Its been months since we talked and I even missed her entire pregnancy of her last duaghter that she just gave birth too :(

would you put up with this in a realtionship? i know the feeling, i am in the same type of relationship, buti just know she is supper busy and i deal with it. she does make time for me, but she just does things differently...i just learned to except that in our relatioship...so you might just except it and know thats just how its going to be.

lol i would run..my best friend since i dont no atleast 10 years lol thats long at 20..i realized after awhile how one sided this friendship was..hurts to not have her there in sumways but at the same time.I know we are only best friends when she agrees with everything i do(she wasnt happy with me when i wouldnt go for the guys she wanted me to date)..she is very one saided everyone says there suprised i didnt notice sooner..even my mum tells me lol