Well I would say that if you are interested you go out with her and have a good time. If you are worried about the whole sugar daddy thing, then set limits for yourself on what you are willing to do. Usually a person who has motives will give themselves away. I can also say that younger women enjoy older men for many reasons, least of which is the whole sugar daddy thing.

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I was pursued by a woman 25 years my junior, I can't say it was my money she was after.

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Pursue her. If you are attracted to her, it doesn't matter about the rest. People are too afraid to just loose themselves in their feelings...don't be one of those people, and miss the opportunity to have fun.

Cool! Good encouragement, guys! Unfortunately, she currently has a boyfriend. I gave her my number anyway, should she find herself without him and lonely...not pinning too much hope on this one...

Bartenders are no good, trust me...i was one. :) Nah, I wasn't THAT bad! You know...don't mistake it for just doing her job though. Her job is to talk to socialize, have fun with people, and make them want to come back. (Especially if they tip good! Sorry, but it's her lively-hood.) I'm not going to tell you that I didn't form connections with my customers, I met a lot of interesting & nice people. Sometimes, it got mistaken for something other than it was and I would have to deal with it as best as I could. If they weren't the crazy stalking type, they would understand. Ya know? Just trying to shed a little light. I don't know this girl or her intentions, but I have known some to be gold diggers as well.

I can only contribute my experience. I dated a much older guy recently. I entered the relationship as a first for me--usually I date my age or younger--without thinking there would be any differences that any other relationship. Well, I was SOOOO wrong. After a bit of time, it was pretty clear that my thoughts, opions, etc, were often discounted. I was some serious eye candy and a boost on the arm of this man, and although he enjoyed the ego boost, I felt diminshed.
So....from my standpoint, age doesn't matter. What matters is how you see your partner, wheter you respect your partner for the glorious humand being they are, or whether you like your parter for the ego boost your perceive for yourself by having them.

ive always preffered older men and their money certainly did not interest me.Go for it.x

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Have an exit strategy.

Oh my baaaaad, that sounds naughty !

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Reply #5: Yeah, that has crossed my mind. In my first visit, when I had the balls to look the girl right in the eye, she gleamed right back at me and we enjoyed a brief-but-stimulating and funny conversation. Then she reluctantly slipped it out when I asked her what she was doing for Thansgiving, she begrudgingly replied "spending it with my boyfriend", as though she was disappointed that she had to admit that. This led me to believe that maybe she kinda dug me...of course, any girl who is so willing to cheat on her boyfriend will also cheat on ME, so I'd have to look at it as temporary anyway...but in more recent visits to this bar, when I try to get her to open up a bit more about herself, her responses are short & simple, so, yeah, I think it's just "business"...

#6: Yeah, there's a certain ego boost about an older man attracting a younger women, but I'm trying to burst through that and get to know her on a more personal level, but she doesn't appear to want to LET me know her, so, sadly (sigh) I think my search is continuing...

nbn: Hmmmm...I think I love you.

So...what IS IT about older men that women find attractive? Confidence? Intelligence? Being more articulate with our feelings? Being more comfortable in our own skins and hearts?

I'm 26 with a 55 year old man. It's NOT about money or anything like that at all.

You seem like an intelligent guy and will probably figure out if the hottie is looking for a sugar daddy. I agree -- "younger women are attracted to older men for for many reasons" that has nothing to do with money. Young women may see older men as a lot more stable, kinder, sweeter and probably better lovers.

Go for it and enjoy yourself.

My God, it's been three years since I posted this! Nothing against the chick I was interested in, but I decided the bar scene is not for me. Decided I needed to get plenty of sleep and exercise instead. Now 45, maybe I really AM getting old lol!

But the young sluts (excuse me, sexual ladies) DO keep coming onto me! At 45, apparently, I'm still cute...exude this young sweetness and vulnerability and yet strength. Maybe I'm not getting older, I'm getting BETTER...better than I was at their age. Maybe, if one is the right "fit" for my life, I'll jump into her...

Thanks for the encouragement, folks!

There's 7 years difference between my hubby and myself. He's the older one. I'm attracted to the older because they're more stable. I'm much older and wiser intellectually and otherwise than my actual age. So the older guy fits and matches my maturity.

One word of caution. Women who are mature beyond their years always have a REASON why they are so. Some have or are in the far stages of recovery like myself. Some have not even begun to venture into it. Depends if you want to get into the baggage department. Some guys can do it, like mine. He has his own baggage as well. Some can't or don't want to be bothered.

Oh, I can handle a certain amount of baggage. The conclusion seems to have arisen that life IS full of baggage, so I embrace it wholeheartedly. This young woman, by the way, is in a similar situation as myself, in the sense that she lost her father at a young age, so she had to become very strong, in a sense, BE both her father and a daughter, to her mother. I lost my brother, and find myself BEING both sons and BOTH siblings to my parents. I welcome the responsibility of this, and it's making me stronger. I think that's why we kinda clicked. A mixture of pain and bad-boy/bad-girl tendencies. I think we're attracted to each other's pain, or longing to fill a gap, a void. She needs another father and I need someone to replace my brother. This is not healthy, of course, which is another reason I backed off.