I can understand this all to well.. I got divorced very young....after having two ectopic pregnancies we drifted apart and he cheated on me. We tried to work things out but it just didn't work. We always remained friends. When he called me up to tell me he was getting remarried....this was many years later I was crushed. I never thought of him being married again. He has been remarried two more times...and I hope this third time is the charm. They started a family...and things are going so well for him. Different things triggers each one of us. When those triggers hit ....it could be good or bad depending on how we look at things. What caused you guys to split? How long have you been divorced? How long have you been with you boyfriend? Take it one step at a time don't rush into anything.... Being that time of the month DOES NOT help.... I am my most sensitive at that time... Sending you strength ....

The two of you split for reasons ... twice. The pattern will continue unless you both somehow learn the lessons that are necessary to make a relationship between the two of you work.

Do you think this is likely?

Besides that, you two are basically carrying on an emotional affair, betraying your current romantic partners. Not cool.

I say cut off all contact with your ex. You will be healthier and happier for it six months from now.

You have a very unusual situation where you are still kind with each other after the divorce. I don't know anyone like that. Sometimes folks do reconnect and get back together. I have a friend who divorced her husband and 5 years later they got back together and remarried. The second time was better for them and they just celebrated their second marriage of 10 years. Not saying this is the case with you but stranger things have happened.

LucilleM:well im not married. im only 16 lolol but thats what it seems about the third time around. we seem like we're getting along better not that it was bad before but our friendship and connection is better. which isn't good if you look at our situation. i dont know what it is really thats triggered this. maybe the connection has always been there and was weak and it just grew. i dont know.... i know he cares about his gf alot thow and i care about my bf alot but theres something we have to do here. and theres something going on in either relationship and in ours thats caused this.

ImDealing:we split the first time we broke up i cant really even recall. it was so long ago. ive known him for only about 3 three yrs. the only part i can recall is me crying. -..- and i think him saying i think we should break up. :/ the second time we broke up it was me who initiated it. he actually asked why o.o i think i did 2 when we broke up the first time. i dont remember what he said. the relationships were just hard on us because he had moved both times and we couldnt really see eachother or have physical contact you know? he had a webcam and i didnt. idk. i was so shy then too. but now. its just so diff. maybe thats why the connection is so diff. hes here now. and its just. idk. its a diff. story now you now?

WackyMacky:well like i told Dealing, we split the first time we broke up i cant really even recall. it was so long ago. ive known him for only about 3 three yrs. the only part i can recall is me crying. -..- and i think him saying i think we should break up. :/ the second time we broke up it was me who initiated it. he actually asked why o.o i think i did 2 when we broke up the first time. i dont remember what he said. the relationships were just hard on us because he had moved both times and we couldnt really see eachother or have physical contact you know? he had a webcam and i didnt. idk. i was so shy then too. but now. its just so diff. maybe thats why the connection is so diff. hes here now. and its just. idk. its a diff. story now you now? ive never been divorced lol im only 16. that would be weird. xD ive been with my bf almost 2 yrs. itll be 2 yrs in nov. idk how long hes been with his gf. i know how you feel. i am 2. i cry at the littles things and thanks.

Maybe the time isn't right for either one of you to be in a serious relationship with other people until you both have solved your issues together. Maybe that means staying away from each other for awhile and see how things go. After all it really isn't fair to the other people that you are involved with into letting them think there is a future with them if you have doubts.

As mentioned above you both have broken up twice and I am thinking neither one of you had any real closure from those break ups and that is why even being friends for right now is difficult. Perhaps you both should consider having a serious talk about either working on your issues and try dating again very slowly or do not see each other at all for awhile.

Until you both get some closure and decide what to do neither one of you will be able to move on. Anyway find out what can truly make you happy in your future to come and focus on taking the steps to make it happen. If you don't take some action in either trying to make a go of it again or leaving him you will stay confused. Wishing you the very best in whatever you decide:)

Boy did I get that wrong. I take it all back.

You are 16 years old and just exploring relationships and I agree with ImDealing. You are both cheating emotionally on your current partners. Let the friendships go and focus on what you already have.

Geez, I remember 16. It was a time for lots of melodrama.