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i love my gf to bits, in fact id like to move in with her one day. but she lives very far away from me, and iv been testing the water as it were on the practicalities of moving in together one day.
and unfortuneatly im heart broken. like i asked her if she would ever consider us getting a new house of our own seeing as the one shes got is from her previous marriage. and she said she doesnt ever want to move.
her bed is too hard for me, it gives me aches and pains, so asked her if she'd consider a different mattress, she said absolutly not.
so i suggested getting zip mattresses so i can have medium and she can have hard. but they only come in bigger sizes than double. i asked her about it and she got defensive. i mean, all im asking for here is a little compromize.
shes asking me to sacrifice my home, my home town, my friends, my family, my job, my whole life to go be with her one day. and it broke my heart that she wouldnt compromise on the smallest most practical of things.
i dont know why shes being so selfish. the only thing i can come up with is that she doesnt love me at all, she doesnt see me and her. i was just an escapade to pass the time.
and unfortuneatly im heart broken. like i asked her if she would ever consider us getting a new house of our own seeing as the one shes got is from her previous marriage. and she said she doesnt ever want to move.
her bed is too hard for me, it gives me aches and pains, so asked her if she'd consider a different mattress, she said absolutly not.
so i suggested getting zip mattresses so i can have medium and she can have hard. but they only come in bigger sizes than double. i asked her about it and she got defensive. i mean, all im asking for here is a little compromize.
shes asking me to sacrifice my home, my home town, my friends, my family, my job, my whole life to go be with her one day. and it broke my heart that she wouldnt compromise on the smallest most practical of things.
i dont know why shes being so selfish. the only thing i can come up with is that she doesnt love me at all, she doesnt see me and her. i was just an escapade to pass the time.
A good night's sleep is not a lot to ask.
and she said shes had her possessions taken away from her twice, and it wont happen again.
i only want to love her. but it doesnt look like its possible. she also told me that she said to her last partner if you ever shout at me or raise your voice i'll leave.
sorry but most people cant talk in a mousy flat tone forever. i mean what if i caught her in bed with someone else, am i just supposed to go oh sorry i intterrupted, how rude of me? i dont think so. im seriously seriously thinking of finishing with her today. if i move up there, i'll have nothing and she'll make sure iv got nothing. and im not prepared to live like that. what should i do?
If a good friend of yours was in the same situation as you are in right now what type of advice would you be giving to them? In my opinion and I know it is hard perhaps it would be a good time for you to back off a bit and not see this girl for awhile. Give yourself some time to hang out with good friends and maybe do some casual dating. If you start respecting yourself and things you want in life you will see that the world has a lot more to offer you and you will also see there are other people who can and will treat you the way that will leave you feeling happy and complete.
I believe if you stay in this relationship without discovering first what else is out there you will be miserable and more lonely then you have ever been before in your life. Take the time now to explore other options before making any serious commitments to this relationship. Wishing you the very best:):
Long-distance...she doesn't want to move. Yep, you're right, she doesn't love you at all. Surely there's someone in your local neighborhood whom you could feel the same way about-?