What do you mean, your wife doesn't care? Why does she not care? Maybe it's better if you don't bring up about ur ex to her, it's a turn off, you know. Other than that, ask your wife what she would like to do and see from there. Also, you should never compare your ex to your wife, that's wrong. You're supposed to love your wife, and that's about it

Did you ask what she likes to do? I mean maybe she'd like going to the zoo, it'd be romantic in her way. Romance should be for them, not you, right?

Maybe do something new and unusual at home, like laying a big puzzle. That requires patience and some teamwork.

Your idea of romance and her idea of romance might be different. Romance comes in many different forms and can be different for each person.

My idea of romance is in every day mundane things done together, grocery shopping, working in the yard, holding hands, walking the dogs, sitting on the patio talking, just spending time together no matter what we're doing.

Have you asked your wife what she sees romance as and then both of you give and take. Relationships are about both partners getting their relationship needs met and sometimes that takes both people bending to meet the other's needs.

I agree with Rosykitten, don't compare your wife to your ex-wife. They're two completely different people with different ideas, different ways and shouldn't be compared.

If you havent read "his needs Her needs" By Dr William Harley you might want to check it out. If you don't know how to meet your spouses emotional needs and they don't know yours the romance may seem to dwindle.

This could spark up the romance, can't hurt to try..

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3550_summary.html

I am married too...29 years. Romance is what got you married....so try and do what she liked then....dinner and dancing...or movies....or pie and coffee...you know! Think of that every day!
Take her somewhere she wants to go...but surprise her...don't tell her where....just say somewhere...go a way she may not know.....watch a sunset or sunrise.
Scavenger hunts are good too...notes from the door to you....mirror messages...vague or detailed up to you...
The chase was worth it before...right??? Make it fun!!!! You can spend a little or as much as you want...
Love is a small package with great rewards!!!!
Surprise and mystery one of the great tools you can use too!
Good Luck!
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wow, what great thoughtful answers! and I want to get that book by Dr William Harley , and I am not even in a relationship, but maybe that will help! :)

What happens when you suggest watching the sunset or having a nice dinner out to her?

When you say, "I know I miss it so much I'm so close to just going to enjoy a nice romantic evening with someone else. I guess that's why some women cheat but at last, no. I'm not the cheating type. sigh... "

I believe this is what can turn an otherwise loyal spouse who would never in a milion years cheat, to go out and cheat. The longing desire that you describe can make one do things out of character, and all it takes is one girl to come along and pay you some innocent interest, convince you that you need to have your desires fullfilled, and the affair has started.

By writing, "I know I miss it so much I'm so close to just going to enjoy a nice romantic evening with someone else." proves this theory, because having a romantic evening with someone else is cheating, and if you aren't aware of this, you're a perfect candidate for a cheating spouse to-be.

This is your opportunity to do something about it, and I don't read anywhere that you've tried to tell her that you need to feel more romantic or that you've taken any steps to try to make it happen. It sounds like you are blaming your wife for the lack of romance, instead of looking at what you can do to re-light that fire.

I wish you well.

So I am puzzled. Wasn't there romance when you dated?? What happened to it and why??5 years is a short time in married life..you need to have a heart to heart with her. Which woman doesn't like romance? Something may be going on with her. I'm not suggesting that she's cheating, but maybe she has too much on her mind or she is working too hard. Go get to the bottom of it. Good l8uck!