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I haven't written in a while. My life has been humming along quite well. Very busy, happy and content, until 2 weeks ago. After more then a year of no contact, there was an e/m in my inbox. I have let my guard down, had remembered the good and let go of the hurt. It was actually nice to hear from him.
He said all the right things. He realized the mistakes, he had grown. He loved me. I knew better, my heart was going, but my feet were dragging. I knew better, but I still was falling.
I found out today, he has a girl friend. He's not happy with the relationship, he's trying to secure something before he lets go of that one. What an ass. That would be me, I'm a dumb ass. A leopards spots never change. Can't believe I fell for that.
He said all the right things. He realized the mistakes, he had grown. He loved me. I knew better, my heart was going, but my feet were dragging. I knew better, but I still was falling.
I found out today, he has a girl friend. He's not happy with the relationship, he's trying to secure something before he lets go of that one. What an ass. That would be me, I'm a dumb ass. A leopards spots never change. Can't believe I fell for that.
That's what they do
They try to use you
You will surprise yourself at how well you will rebound from this. His actions prove to you that you are sooo much better off without him. Leaving one bed for another.... That is not a healthy person. He has not grown, and has not dealt with his issues. Someone looking to you as a source of happiness is not someone you want. Its not your job to make someone happy.
This is just a little hick up no big deal. Don't make it one. Please. Congratulate yourself. Life is just showing how far you have come.
I am cheering the fact that you wrote "I knew better". Now the next time your gut tells you this, you know to pay attention.
I am so glad you didn't fall for it. You are not a dumb ass at all.