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New Military Girlfriend

April
April

Hello Everyone! So recently I met this amazing guy who is in the Navy. He has been in for 3 years, and will be coming home March 2017. He decided not to reenlist next year, which is the only reason I decided to date him despite him living in VA and me living in GA. He has been getting ready for deployment in December and this means I cannot talk to him as often as I would like. I try no tto irritate him when I can talk to him by calling him constantly, even though he always answers and never says anything about me annoying him. I think i am just overthinking it hone stly. Now he is out to sea for the next 10 days and I realize i need a hobby! haha. Any advice on how to occupy my time and how to deal with my wandering mind that usually leads to me thinkin ghe is doing somethin gI would no tlike. Once again I may just be overthinking, since he is a really great guy. The distance is makin gme feel crazy! haha!!

onelife2958
onelife2958
Hello,
It's hard when you are in a relationship that our miles apart. Trust is the basics for any relationship to work, you said "he's a great guy" so just go with that! Don't let your thought confuse your judgement! I know the mind is a powerful thing, but if you don't learn to trust him now, it will be harder to trust him when he is home.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
You said that you have just recently met him... Will you be spending any time with him before he's deployed?

I think in brand new relationships when we don't really know someone but want to our minds can fill in the blanks and make it perfect...smile... I hope that you'll get to spend some time with him soon....xo
April
April
@suncloudjd yes we met through a mutual friend in January & officially have been in a relationship since March. Up until last month he was able to see me and I was able to go see him at least once a month. Now it's just getting used to not talking to him. I haven't seen him since may just because of our schedules and money. Hopefully I can see him before deployment.
April
April
Onelife2958 yes I'm trying to not let my mind convince me that he's a bad guy. He's really sweet and sensitive to my lack of understanding of why he can't come see me as often as I like. Just ready for him to be home for good. Thank you!
msmermaid
msmermaid
My hubby travels a lot for work and little texts or e-mails help a lot. Sometimes it just helps to see you're being thought of.
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