The truth will set you free

I think it is best to be honest about these types of things from the beginning. Better to know now than later if this is a deal breaker for him.

If you don't smoke a lot of pot (not every day), you could just bring it up in a casual way, something like, "Yeah actually, I do smoke pot occasionally, it helps me relax, helps my pain...." and then just see how he reacts. He might be completely fine with it. This would work if you are only an occasional pot smoker.

If you smoke every day, multiple times a day, then you should tell him now. You said he is conservative, so he may or may not be okay with this. I wish you the best. Good luck.

Thanks. I don't smoke daily, maybe once or twice a week. He does seem pretty easy going. so I hope he's the same when it comes to this subject. I also had a medical marijuana card but let it expire since it was going to become legal for recreational use soon. So, I can tell him that too. Thanks for your replies, I feel better about it already!

Hopefully he'll say if it bothers him and if it does then you can think about what you want to do.....

Nice to meet an easy going guy that you like Catin…. Let us know how it goes.... Big hug....xo

Please let him know the truth. Lying never works as a way to hold on to someone. He is not going to accept your smoking weed more later on if he has a problem with it now. If he does not like the idea of dating someone who smokes weed, then you two are not compatible and either you will have to lie or he will have to accommodate and this tends to never work out. And let's flip the script. Let's say he has a secret that could be a potential deal breaker with you, would you want to know early on or would you more appreciate him not telling you and letting you assume you two were compatible?

Oh honey. You gotta tell him. My husband did the same to me. We were dating and 6 months into the relationship he decided to tell me he smoked pot. It really kicked me in the gut. Cause I that point I really thought I knew him and that curve ball really shook me. It almost tore us apart. Not because he smoked but because he would do it and lie about it. Don't let it get to that point hun.

Some folks are adamantly against marijuana. Of course, others aren’t. I would want anyone I see to tell me upfront. Good luck!

AutumnFalls and urbangardener: I guess I didn't make my concern clear. It's not whether I tell him, I will, I was worried about how to tell him or how to bring up the subject. I would never lie about it. I'm going to bring up the subject myself and let him know I do occasionally, like I said, maybe once or twice a week at the most. I want him to know at the beginning stages of our dating experience. I want to be up front about it right away! Thanks for your replies though. I see where you're coming from.

I would just spit it out.... Here it's as legal as booze now.... I don't think it's the big deal it once was in the Western world.... xo

Apologies for my misunderstanding! That's great that you've decided to tell him. I agree with SunCloudJD. Just spitting it out probably is as good a time as any. When my husband got around to telling me, he decided he was gonna roll a joint in front of me and while I try to figure out what he was doing, then tell me. I advice against that :D I wish you the best of luck!! Keep us updated!!

How did it go?

Well, I told him and I feel better about getting out in the open. But, he's very much against it, even though it's legal now. He still wants to go out with me though. I'm a little disappointed with the fact that he's so against it and feel that if our relationship develops into more that I may have to quit in order for our relationship to sustain. I want to quit smoking cigs, but don't know if I'm willing to quit smoking pot altogether. I'm not a pothead and I don't smoke before work or anything, I really enjoy it once in a while. It's really early on in our relationship...I mean we're only going out on our 3rd date this Saturday. So, maybe I shouldn't worry about it too much for now.

If he is adamantly against it, if he wants to continue a relationship with you, HE should be the one willing to change his personal stance, not require you to change.

If pot smoking is a deal breaker, he needs to find himself a non-smoker.

If he wants to continue dating you, the onus is on him to change, not you.

I guess you've got to decide which you like better, him or pot. With or without him, at the end of the day, you've gotta be yourself, so keep smoking pot if you like it.