My ex has NPD, he never goes after the weak and needy type. He cant get his NARC Supply from the needy...he needs the strong, independant, their better to feed from.

Quite possible that would be a type of codependency.

Absolutely...and someone who is loving and would do anything rather than hurt someone else but would take the hurt themselves....

I think it's rude and uneducated to diagnose people after reading a 'dolly' magazine or whatever.... That is left to the professionals for a reason... The terms/diagnoses are often misused and misunderstood.

However, I believe these personality types would be attracted to people similar to themselves.... Definately not the easy targets.

I believe my ex is a narcissist, like ladyisis's.

I am a very laid back and undemanding person. I think he was attracted to the fact that I gave without conditions. What could be easier for someone with a bottomless pit where their heart should be?

These people are takers, and I would say "run for the hills" if you think someone is a narcissist. It is not healthy to give, give, give when the other person is only capable of taking.

In my experience they like women who love unconditionally,give it their all,and would do anything for them..and yes my ex husband who I strongly believe had NPD loved it when I was dependant on him..he fell to pieces when I started living my own life and didn't need HIM anymore.........

I think the narcissist would go for the opposite personality type -- someone who feeds the ego by giving compliments, praise, etc.

I have NPD mom and x.
I think they go after anyone they can control.
For example low self esteem, insecurties or someone healthy in a rough spot in life like faily crisis.