Its normal. You just need time to heal. There must be some unaddressed pain you need to take care before you can start healthy relationship. I had a moment like that too. I am freakily afraid to get over attached and hurt, so at times I end up hurting people.
Healing yourself takes time and then ongoing practice.
But nothing can substitute peace you gain inside after all.

I've pretty much accepted that people leave, people drift apart, people die, people cheat, people do what they do. The question is: Do I allow myself to be HURT over that? No.

I agree with Koolman. Most people that I loved , including my parents, abandoned me and betrayed me in some way, but I can't let it stop me from forming relationships and friendships and having feelings which may get hurt.
I feel like being afraid of forming a relationship and fear of being hurt is really feeling inadequate and not trusting yourself to make a good choice, having failure again ( and nobody likes to fail) .
You will have a greater chance of success if you forgive yourself for whatever mistakes you made screening your potential partners, take responsibility for the acts you could control ( like not kicking someone to the curb at the first sign of a problem) and enjoy your life to the fullest while setting healthy boundaries with the people you meet.
I m so sorry you are not feeling well in this department and hope you will succeed on your next try.

That's right, Aronia. I'd like to add: Hurt I can handle. Sometimes life hurts. It's anger and negativity that I can do without, in myself and others. When there's anger in me, I try to channel the anger into work of some kind that brings about a positive result, money and health. Seems to work for me. However, when I'm surrounded by other angry people who only want to bitch, it's very difficult to stay positive, and I end up only directing anger back at them, which results at the end of the day in an angry me. Ultimately, those people who only bring out anger for anger's sake or for the sake of ego glorification have to go, have no business being in my life, and I try not to be one of them.

I feel the exact same way. I don't know that i have it in me to love someone the way that they should be loved. I am going to seek therapy. I basically sabotage all my relationships, I think purposefully. But then I wonder, did I sabotage it, or were the guys I met just not right for me? I thought I could deal with my issues on my own, and I at least got to point on my own to accept what happened to me, and be able to talk about it. I know now, that maybe need someone else professional to get to where I need to be... or maybe I will never get to where I need to be, or maybe the sad truth is that guys are just more work than I need to put my time in, and I am better off alone. I have serious trust issues. The last relationship that I was in, I basically drove him nuts because I wanted like 24 hour surveillance on him. I have no trust in people, not even my family. So, you are not alone, and I hope that somehow we can both find peace with ourselves and others.

Sometimes we are hurt so badly that we shut down all feeling. This can be for a short time or a long time. It does seem that being alone is preferable to being hurt again. As for choosing the wrong people, well in the beginning we don't always know enough about them to make wise decisions.

I can identify with your trust issues. I've decided friendships are worth it, but getting deeply involved again and painfully vulnerable is not on my To Do list.

I think you should try therapy and talk about it. the more you get it out, and realize why you feel the way you do, it might help to face your fears.
I ran from relationships all my life. I never had an example of how to work on a relationship and I didn't know how.

I read in the last week that week attract to us people whom are like us, do you find that to be the case?

I wasn't abandoned by my parents, and have a loving, stable family, but I just don't have the energy/patience or desire to get into a relationship. I like having my own space and my own agenda.